Helloooo nurse
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I'm a good girl, classy lady with manners, and naturally just a nice person. I don't go out of my way to gain others' approval (therefore be super nice to them); however I'm just an easygoing person with a down to earth attitude. I'm not a big flirt at all and as I get older I am aware that I do need to restrict my kindness somewhat. Bottom line: there's no reason for me to be a b*tch if I don't have to be one. What's also surprising is that guys also tell me how they're a bit hesitant in approaching me bc of my looks (???) and when they find out i'm a "cool girl", they relax but that's when it sucks bc it's there when they assume I'm interested. (I'm not gorgeous but I am "feminine" and like to take care of myself). We could be talking about basketball, me giving them "crap" bc of a team they like and they're hooked. I look back at what I say and do (even ask my close friend for non-biased advice) and i really don't do anything that would make them think or feel this way.
For ex: A guy friend was introducing me to all his guy friends and I wanted to be a good sport and say "hi", talk w. some people. I talked to this one guy, had that basketball convo (as mentioned) above and he's hooked. I thought he was just a cool friend to hang out with but within 24 hours, texted me and kept the convo goin for the whole afternoon, added me on facebook, left me a comment that had something to do w. my basketball preferences, givin me compliments here and there (typical, predictable game btw haha) and for the whole week, I was so busy w. work and my major and when i texted to him back he said, "i was beginning to think you disliked me." OUCH. I like him as a friend but how did he think i was interested in him, already? I barely know the guy! Luckily, I responded back w. a "I'm friendly to all my friends." He also decided to drunk text me and ask me when we would go on a vacation together? :/ And please don't encourage me to go for this guy. I've FINALLY learned my lesson in settling and getting w. him would be like getting back w. my ex (he's like his twin... everything about him).
Advice? And how to prevent this in the future? I guess you can't really prevent this but i don't wanna be a mean b*tch about it... be grateful for all this?
For ex: A guy friend was introducing me to all his guy friends and I wanted to be a good sport and say "hi", talk w. some people. I talked to this one guy, had that basketball convo (as mentioned) above and he's hooked. I thought he was just a cool friend to hang out with but within 24 hours, texted me and kept the convo goin for the whole afternoon, added me on facebook, left me a comment that had something to do w. my basketball preferences, givin me compliments here and there (typical, predictable game btw haha) and for the whole week, I was so busy w. work and my major and when i texted to him back he said, "i was beginning to think you disliked me." OUCH. I like him as a friend but how did he think i was interested in him, already? I barely know the guy! Luckily, I responded back w. a "I'm friendly to all my friends." He also decided to drunk text me and ask me when we would go on a vacation together? :/ And please don't encourage me to go for this guy. I've FINALLY learned my lesson in settling and getting w. him would be like getting back w. my ex (he's like his twin... everything about him).
Advice? And how to prevent this in the future? I guess you can't really prevent this but i don't wanna be a mean b*tch about it... be grateful for all this?