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Abuse 101 manuals? Why do so many well-intentioned articles for Christian husbands read like Emotional Abuse 101 manuals?
One article I read recently on a theology forum spoke vehemently against physically abusing one's wife. It urged Christian husbands to be compassionate, patient, and understanding towards their wives.
Awesome!
But it recommended a lot of behaviors INSTEAD of hitting that the secular community would view as disgusting, heavy-handed, guilt-inducing behavior modification tactics.
i.e. if you've been married for ten years and your wife is terrible about doing the dishes, LEAVE HER ALONE ABOUT THE DISHES ALREADY! DON'T hit her--she's obviously too stubborn to learn anything from it.
So instead, to show her that you accept her and love her in spite of her shortcomings, get rid of all the dishes and silverware and buy paper plates and plastic silverware. Tell her that IT'S OKAY with you that she won't wash the dishes, that IT'S FINE, that you LOVE HER ANYWAY, and that you're so willing to accommodate her that refusal to wash the dishes that you have cheerfully found a solution, and that she will never have to wash dishes again, because from now on your family is going to be eating every morsel of their food out of paper plates, with plastic utensils.
"Because I LOVE you, and I don't want you to have to wash dishes if it's too hard for you."
What would the pop-psych secular community make of this? Is there a term for it?
When it comes to religion, are good intentions everything?
One article I read recently on a theology forum spoke vehemently against physically abusing one's wife. It urged Christian husbands to be compassionate, patient, and understanding towards their wives.
Awesome!
But it recommended a lot of behaviors INSTEAD of hitting that the secular community would view as disgusting, heavy-handed, guilt-inducing behavior modification tactics.
i.e. if you've been married for ten years and your wife is terrible about doing the dishes, LEAVE HER ALONE ABOUT THE DISHES ALREADY! DON'T hit her--she's obviously too stubborn to learn anything from it.
So instead, to show her that you accept her and love her in spite of her shortcomings, get rid of all the dishes and silverware and buy paper plates and plastic silverware. Tell her that IT'S OKAY with you that she won't wash the dishes, that IT'S FINE, that you LOVE HER ANYWAY, and that you're so willing to accommodate her that refusal to wash the dishes that you have cheerfully found a solution, and that she will never have to wash dishes again, because from now on your family is going to be eating every morsel of their food out of paper plates, with plastic utensils.
"Because I LOVE you, and I don't want you to have to wash dishes if it's too hard for you."
What would the pop-psych secular community make of this? Is there a term for it?
When it comes to religion, are good intentions everything?