This is a cross between a rant and a question.
I'd just like to know why people (especially other women) choose to negatively judge attractive women. I have worked as a glamour model (ie - Sports Illustrated type model), so by conventional standards am considered attractive. Now this has led to a lot of very unfortunate incidents with other people. One particular incident that stands out involved a man at a club approaching me and saying "I know you'll sleep with me, so if I can't find someone who's a bit more of a challenge, I'll come back to you at the end of the night" (I'm pretty sure he watches the Pick Up Artist to say something that insulting as a first liner). I was shocked! There wasn't even so much as a "hello". And to put things into perspective, I was wearing one of those Diane Von Furstenberg style wrap dresses, so I was classy looking in comparison to a lot of the other girls out that night.
And today, the thing which has put me on todays rant, a women walked into the pet shelter I volunteer at and said to me "It's good to see young people doing something for the community", to which I responded I like to help where I can, and she said "well, it's good that your doing something constructive, I mean most young women in your position wouldn't spend the time of day helping." I asked her what she meant by that, to which she responded "well you all have rich husbands to look after you, so you never really have to work hard, unlike my daughter in college."
Basically she insinuated that I might be a gold-digger (and thus whore), unintelligent and unable to work hard! I just wanted to slap her stupid face and say that I actually am enrolled in a really good college, and that I work a part-time job outside of my one day a week volunteering (and have been since I stopped modelling full time).
Now, this gets to my questions -
1) Why do people do it? I mean like in both situations (and in most others), I've been minding my business and just going about what I want to, when these people appraoch me, so why?
2) What do you think gives people the right to comment on an attractive person (I've been called every name under the sun without provocation), when they wouldn't comment on a less-attractive person in the same way?
3) Do you judge attractive people in this way? If so, what do you normally think? Why.
And just to add a side note - I don't usually wear much make-up (and certainly not in the pet shelter), I'm usually quite shy (not a "loud" type), and don't really approach these people or even really look at them when I'm approached, so I just don't understand why they do it when I clearly am not giving off any signals saying "approach me"
I'd just like to know why people (especially other women) choose to negatively judge attractive women. I have worked as a glamour model (ie - Sports Illustrated type model), so by conventional standards am considered attractive. Now this has led to a lot of very unfortunate incidents with other people. One particular incident that stands out involved a man at a club approaching me and saying "I know you'll sleep with me, so if I can't find someone who's a bit more of a challenge, I'll come back to you at the end of the night" (I'm pretty sure he watches the Pick Up Artist to say something that insulting as a first liner). I was shocked! There wasn't even so much as a "hello". And to put things into perspective, I was wearing one of those Diane Von Furstenberg style wrap dresses, so I was classy looking in comparison to a lot of the other girls out that night.
And today, the thing which has put me on todays rant, a women walked into the pet shelter I volunteer at and said to me "It's good to see young people doing something for the community", to which I responded I like to help where I can, and she said "well, it's good that your doing something constructive, I mean most young women in your position wouldn't spend the time of day helping." I asked her what she meant by that, to which she responded "well you all have rich husbands to look after you, so you never really have to work hard, unlike my daughter in college."
Basically she insinuated that I might be a gold-digger (and thus whore), unintelligent and unable to work hard! I just wanted to slap her stupid face and say that I actually am enrolled in a really good college, and that I work a part-time job outside of my one day a week volunteering (and have been since I stopped modelling full time).
Now, this gets to my questions -
1) Why do people do it? I mean like in both situations (and in most others), I've been minding my business and just going about what I want to, when these people appraoch me, so why?
2) What do you think gives people the right to comment on an attractive person (I've been called every name under the sun without provocation), when they wouldn't comment on a less-attractive person in the same way?
3) Do you judge attractive people in this way? If so, what do you normally think? Why.
And just to add a side note - I don't usually wear much make-up (and certainly not in the pet shelter), I'm usually quite shy (not a "loud" type), and don't really approach these people or even really look at them when I'm approached, so I just don't understand why they do it when I clearly am not giving off any signals saying "approach me"