Why do people judge and take sides before knowing both points of view?

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Yuan Z

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I'm sure that we all know it takes 2 people to start a fight. I called a popular girl a slut to defend my friend's honor. (this popular girl and her friends haven't been leaving my friends alone for a while now), and now it seems like that everyone is against me. Some people just love drama or loves to be popular so much that they would do such a thing which I find really stupid and outrageous. I mean come on, you know nothing and just for popularity you would do anything??????
Now I understand I was wrong for calling this girl a slut. What makes me different from her when she was calling my friend names and I called her back. I did apologize. But the popular girl's friends just don't want to let it go. They are always giving death glares to me and stuff. Now I'm not afraid of them. I will stand up for myself if I have to and I definitally will get help if they try to do anything. But what I don't understand is why teens do things like this?
 
because we teens are still immature about these kinds of stuff. we should not take sides but be mature and solve the problem faster. we take sides because the people who are our friends, we don't want people to hurt them
 
By showing remorse for calling names you showed more maturity than any teenager I know. As for why teens do these things. Well I think it is done mostly out of low self esteem, jealousy, and being insecure about your place in this world.
As a teen all you have is your friends and what they think about you.So if you step away from that false bravado what do you have left? My advice to you,is just let those other girls be as nasty as they want. let them say what they want.You and your friends take the higher moral ground and if that fails just kill them with kindness and a smile!! Good luck!!
 
Because they are arse lickers and want to stay in with whoever is popular at the time, they are like sheep, followers without a mind of their own. Just laugh at idiots like that, I do and I take no shit either!
 
some people tend to hold a grudge longer. especially the popular kids. and they can easily turn everyone against you. i think your best bet would be to just either ignore her and pretend like it doesnt bother you when they glare and they will eventually get bored with that and stop, or you could just apologize and try to be nicer to her and move on. show her how sorry you really are and explain that you were just sticking up for your friend. im sure she would have done the same thing for one of her friends, and you could even point that out to her. if people are being mean to you, and this behavior continues, then i suggest that you and her go talk to a school counselor together. good luck!
 
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