Why do I find it difficult to mingle with other people? what is wrong with me?

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CuriosityKills

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in a conversation i cant help but feel the urge for it to end. when im Around people, i can't think straight. i always feel isolate and i have nothing to say..then when i'm alone i feel relieved

this is so bad that i can't even talk to women. when they do talk to me, it dosent go anywhere because i can't seem to mingle with them for a long period of time.

is this social anxiety or what? should i worry about it?
 
more confidence with social skills comes with time. when ur in conversations with girls for example, if u havent met them before, then keep it simple. u can use cleshays...say things like 'hey, im ..... i dont think ive met u b4.....wot skl r u guys from' etc.

its okay to not say that much, just keep involved. listen to wot other people say and reply. u dont need to think things up all the time. and also stay in large groups at first. that way there is always a new flow of conversation...
 
dont fret about it- you are here to help balance out the world. theres some people who talk wayyyy too much so it's okay. some girl will like you for who you are and accept that. i dont think you should put a label on this unless you are seeing some more symptoms than just not wanting to conversate with people.
 
i think you are just shy, just talk to people over the phone get to know them there and then start talking to them in person.
 
...We must have been separated at birth. That almost totally describes me when I'm around people :P I never seem to feel like talking to people, usually strangers/ people I'm not confortable with. When they do talk to me it's like my mind's only half-working and I can't think of anything to say that will keep the conversation going. And when the conversation ends my mind starts working again and I think of things I could've said to make it last longer.

I don't know the answer exactly. Could be shyness, which could go away by having more experience talking to people. Have more confidence in your abilities. Or act like you're confident, and eventually you will be confident. Or maybe you're a loner by nature who doesn't care much for establishing relations with others? Well I don't know you, but for me at least, it's a combination of all. I used to not worry or care whether or not I was by myself for a little while, then I noticed how everyone places such an importance on friendship, and how happy everyone seemed to be in their big group of friends and I started wondering if I could be happier that way. Buut with my shyness and fear of making myself look stupid, I have a hard time starting casual conversations with people. When I do start one, it's usually not meant for a long chat. I usually prefer conversations on certain topics, and friends, famiy, or people I'm comfortable around, starting conversations with me

Sorry i spent a lot of time talking about myself ^^' More than you needed to know. If you really don't mind being by yourself most of the time or don't care about what other people think of you, you shouldn't worry. But if you want to improve relations with others, you can go talk to a psychiatrist or join a group or club with similar interests as you and start something from there
 
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