Why do I feel guilty/ embarrassed about having sex once I'm married?

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Honeybee

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I'm 31 and a virgin. I've planned to remain pure until my wedding night. I've met the most wonderful man and we're planning to get married the 1st week of August. We've done nothing sexual.

Money's tight, so instead of having a huge ceremony and reception, we're just gonna have a quickie courthouse/ jp wedding followed by a weekend honeymoon. (I have a huge family, so any ceremony/ reception would be huge.)

My mom's my bestfriend and we can talk about anything. For some reason lately discussing sex with her has become sooooo awkward and I feel guilty/ embarrassed about my honeymoon because when we get back she'll know I had sex... Kinda like the day you figured out your parents had sex!

How can I get over these feelings? I'm terrified I won't be able to look her in the eye. I love him and want to have sex with him and want to have his children... I just can't get beyond the idea of "having sex".
It's not that I care what she thinks...

It's more like the scene from "Just Married" where Brittany Murphy's character freaks out because she just realized her parents will know she had sex.
Actually, I stayed to be able to give my husband myself on our wedding night. In my household sex was openly discussed. If it was something I wanted to do (which I considered a number of times) I could have.
 
First, there is nothing--absolutely nothing wrong with waiting. There is no reason for you to feel anything but excitement about being with your husband on your wedding night.

One thing you should know, even if sex is not apart of your relationship before you are married it becomes a very important part of a relationship. As it is important for him to feel well--satisfied for lack of a better term, it is equally important for you too!

Something that many women don't tell you, I wish I had've been told. SPEAK UP, if he happens to do something you are uncomfortable with or just do not like you must tell him. Same thing goes with what shivers your timbers if you know what I mean.

As for your mom and your feelings after you return from your honeymoon, don't worry about it. Your mom probably won't say it but it is as if you have joined an exclusive club and I'm sure she'll be extremely proud of you for waiting.

Good luck on your honeymoon and more importantly HAVE FUN!
 
first off, great job staying pure until your wedding night. that's a hard thing to do.

second, there is nothing embarrassing about a 31 year old woman having sex with her husband. mom will understand.
 
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