If being is really not that big of a deal then why do gays and lesbians have such a big issue with people's prefference if they do or do not like the gay lifestyle? I mean if someone said they did not like that I wear contacts instead of glasses I wouldn't have any different feelings with that. One of my friends does not like gays or lesbians but I never have felt upset by this and I am gay. Isn't it her thoughts and she's not mean to me about it. Why is this an issue for other gays and lesbians on simlpe prefferences.