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I don't entirely understand how that happened... why people often automatically think a mother should consider placing her baby for adoption because of her age?Both of my grandmothers had babies before they turned 20. They were both married, and I understand why unwed pregnancy became stigmatized, but no one blinked at these women's age. They were from totally different cultures, but no one in either culture questioned their "teen pregnancies." For most of history, this was the case.So what exactly changed? When did the teen years become "too young"? Is it because age of marriage has gotten later, and teens are now assumed to be unwed-- so it's really an unmarried thing? Is it because college/university education has become a basic requirement for more and more jobs, and it's assumed a mother can't get an education? Is it because people are more and more considering adolescence a unique stage of life, whereas for much of history the world was pretty much considered to be divided into children and adults?Why are teens considered too young to parent? Why are they often pressured/expected to give their children up for adoption? When did the distinction start to be drawn between single mothers based on age, and why is that the cutoff point?Thoughts?I'm actually well past my teen years myself.
This is a general informational question about something I don't understand, not my own personal situation.Actually, one of my grandmothers DID complete a university degree. That isn't supposed to prove a point or anything-- I realize she had opportunities many other women of her generation didn't-- but credit where credit is due. ;-)I do think the college/university thing has a lot to do with this, since it's become an expectation, not a luxury, even for people with lower incomes.I said I understand HOW unwed pregnancies became stigmatized-- because of the religious background of much of North America. I'm not saying that's how it SHOULD be. I actually very much disagree with the stigma, so you don't have to convince me that unmarried and/or single folks can be good parents. I know they can.
