why did i cry during sex??!!?

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i'm 17 and I just recently lost my virginity to my bf, we were both ready and honestly it was really nice. I was very nervous to begin with, my bf was so gentle and kept whispering stuff in my ear like 'ur so beautiful and i love you'. it was nice to be so close to him.
i dunno what happened 2 me, i was really quiet, and when he said to me i love you, i just broke down and started to cry really badly. he asked if he should stop, but i told him i was okay, and should carry on, and minutes later i started crying, i couldn't control myself.
it was soo embarrasing, he did stop then..he thinks he had done something wrong. i have no idea why i started crying, it got to the point where i was shaking. my bf didnt say much except, sorry. i freaked him out, he dosen't want us 2 have sex again until, i say so.
but how can i make sure it dosen't happen again..why did i cry so much? thank you
 
maybe the fact that it was your first time had got to you. if there wasnt actually anything wrong, and if everything was going right and you enjoyed it, then maybe your mind juss had a blip or summin, itll be fine next time (Y) :)
 
This happened to me !! (and still does occasionally :P)
my boyfriend did the same, i think he now realises it coz it's a build up of emotions and that's a part of the release. Don't worry about it :) its nothing to do with him or you xx
 
That level of intimacy is extremely emotional. It could be you were just overwhelmed and combined with inexperience it...it happens.

I have been married for 42 years and honey I cry sometimes too. It is beautiful and intense.! Not sobbing crying...but joyful tears of being loved so intensely and beautifully.

Your boyfriend sounds like he really cares for you.....and that shows when he was more concerned with YOU than his needs. God Bless him....he seems more mature than others at his age. Hang onto him....:)))
 
aw my bf like that too lol and im 17 how weird haha

erm anyway maybe you were just overwhelmed maybe it was good crying, you might of just felt really overwhelmed that it was so special or something like that dont worry i dont think its embarrassing people love people so much that it makes them want to cry .......its cute
 
Sounds like your first time was wonderful and something to remember for the rest of your life! Crying is as a result of the emotion you feel during love making.
Ja.
 
This is normal.
Us girls are soo emotional. And just the thought of having someone who cares sooo much about you, is truly amazing, right??

So dont worry about it. He loves you and a little bit of tears wont change his mind.((:
 
hmmm the only reason i could think of was it hurt to bad or you felt guilty because your disobeying your guardian or maybe you were thinking thtyou will never get your virginity back and felt sad about it idk my first time was great i had a HUGE smile on my face after and during
 
Your age, nervousness,anxiety, made you more emotive. if prepared try next time without crying again.you have a good bf he did not hurt you.he stopped at once too good and pity him and allow him next time and have nice time without repeating this episode
 
its ok getting emotion during sex is normal especially if its ur first time..its probably because u havent been this close to anyone and ehn u finally did, it was just what u wanted and it made u feeel like he really loves u and that what it should feel like...so my guess is probably that it wont happen again
 
Possibly you weren't ready, or it's just too much to deal with emotionally.
You're lucky you have a great, understanding boyfriend! When you feel like you're ready, let him know!
 
WOW! You are so lucky to have such an AMAZING bf!!

Really, don't worry about it hun, it sounds like it got a bit emotional for you and thats OKAY. Giving up your virginity is a big thing and can be overwhelming at times. My guess is it was maybe a build-up of feeling in love, a bit scared, maybe some trepidation, maybe confused... Crying can happen not only when we are sad, but also when we are overwhelmed or very happy or deeply emotional.

Sex is always a very intense experience, especially the first time, and you are not alone - many people have cried or cry during sex - and its not a negative thing! If anything it shows how deeply you feel for your bf, how you were moved by the experience.

So if you still feel ready, I am sure the next time you will not feel so overwhelmed. And even if you do, just relax and go with it. Let yourself have those tears and be okay with it. You have got yourself a truly sweet bf who obviously loves you and is willing to wait. That, if nothing else, should bring a laugh to your heart!

Take care hun, and DON'T WORRY!
xxx
 
it was one or the other -

You became very excited as it was such a perfect moment (you were still scared) but it was a major step for you, so your emotions went overbord and you cryed - the sort of thing you do at your wedding when you feel happy but can't express it.

Or you deep down didn't enjoy it, and felt you were not ready.

Only you know if you liked it though,
I would wait untill you both are relaxed again and see what happens - your boyfriend sounds perfect so I think he will understand if you tell him how you feel.
 
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