Why can't I enjoy sex like a normal person?

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Hermione

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I am 21. Firstly I was raped a couple times as a teen so my first sexual experiences weren't good. Other than that I am pretty sure I am completely numb "down below" I have tried everything and have had very patient boyfriends but I just can't feel ANYTHING. It is like God left me without any sexuality. This leads me to getting stressed and worked up over sex that I would rather avoid it. I am constantly frustrated any thoughts? :(
 
Everything you lost sexually was a direct result of being raped. You need therapy. Period. There is nothing strangers over the internet can do for you.

Find a therapist, go to a rape survivors support group. Don't let this fester and build inside of you. You CAN be helped, you just need to look for it.
 
Try to please him--putting the focus on you may be increasing your anxiety. Put the focus on his pleasure and don't worry about yours for a few weeks. I think the problem is that you aren't getting that feeling of closeness and bonding that goes with sex. Aim to please your man and take control in bed (and ask him to just enjoy it rather than worrying about your pleasure) and I think you'll be feeling something after a few weeks. Once you are feeling close to him during sex, then you two can start thinking about how to get better at the physical part.
 
Have you tried pleasuring yourself? If you don't have any sensation down there, even when you touch yourself, you may want to visit your doctor and rule out any medical conditions. Good luck!
 
i was raped as a kid and that's how i was for a long time but which means your not over being raped yet. first try to get over it don't let it run your life just look at it as a step u need to overcome before you can move on.
 
Wrong people wrong time.........with boyfriends that is..........you need to get help with your issues - you seem to be blaming yourself and that can cause no end of conflict in you - whether you realise it or not.
 
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