Sorry , I asked last week but barely got any answers. Any input please?
I know, its long, but I could really use some advice.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. He is 24 and I am 22.
He is my best friend, my heart, my soul, and everything a woman could ask for in a man - intelligent, hard working, responsible, a good friend/son/brother/boyfriend, funny, handsome, and gets along with just about anyone that comes his way. My brother and family ADORE him.
He has been working with a great company for a few years now. The company he works for has opportunity for growth, great benefits, and the pay is pretty good for someone his age.
I work for my parent's company and I am also a full-time college student. I make decent money with my mom. However, she has some SERIOUS attachment issues (for which I am in therapy right now), and for this reason, I am seeking employment elsewhere.
The other day, my boyfriend confessed that he is thinking of applying for a police department that is about an hour or so away, and he wants to move towards that area as well.
Given that all of the problems we have had during our relationship have been because of how busy I am, and our lack of time together, I don't understand how he would consider moving so far away, when its hard enough for us to see each other right, now as it is.
I know that my reasons for not wanting him to leave are selfish, because the police department is what he has always wanted to do. And he has always wanted to live up north as well. I just feel like him moving will hurt our relationship more. His response was "well it wouldnt be much different from how often we see eachother right now.". I told him I want whats best for him and will stand by him through whatever, I just hate that he is leaving me. He replied "Who said anything about me leaving you?" and I said "well, physically, you will be." and he said "Who knows, I might ask you to come."
Lately we have had LIGHT (very light) conversations about marriage, but I dont know if we have been jokingly discussing it or what. I can talk to him about anything, but its almost as though I get shy talking to him about marriage, which is ridiculous because we have been together TWO YEARS and are in love. I'm just scared he will say he's too young for marriage, or something typical of men his age. Especially since all of his friends are still in the "party till you drop" mode.
I'm a little confused, and don't know how to discuss this with him. I would love to spend the rest of my life with him, no doubt that he is the man for me. And someone told me "if the only reason you guys argue is over spending time together, then there's no reason why you should ever be apart."
I don't want to live with him without getting married, thats just my belief. Regardless of how it works out for other people, it just isn't for me.
Any advice here, please?!
How do I get us to talk about our future together without feeling so shy?!
I know, I know , I sound a little ridiculous.
_ _ Is it CRAZY that I can't stop thinking about marriage lately? I just want to start our lives together already. I want to know that when I wake up in the morning, he'll be the first thing I see. I want to build a home, a family (eventually), and a future with him. Everyone on here says we're too young. We have been dating TWO years and have known each other for eight years. We know each other backwards and forwards.
Sorry, just had to add that.
I know, its long, but I could really use some advice.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. He is 24 and I am 22.
He is my best friend, my heart, my soul, and everything a woman could ask for in a man - intelligent, hard working, responsible, a good friend/son/brother/boyfriend, funny, handsome, and gets along with just about anyone that comes his way. My brother and family ADORE him.
He has been working with a great company for a few years now. The company he works for has opportunity for growth, great benefits, and the pay is pretty good for someone his age.
I work for my parent's company and I am also a full-time college student. I make decent money with my mom. However, she has some SERIOUS attachment issues (for which I am in therapy right now), and for this reason, I am seeking employment elsewhere.
The other day, my boyfriend confessed that he is thinking of applying for a police department that is about an hour or so away, and he wants to move towards that area as well.
Given that all of the problems we have had during our relationship have been because of how busy I am, and our lack of time together, I don't understand how he would consider moving so far away, when its hard enough for us to see each other right, now as it is.
I know that my reasons for not wanting him to leave are selfish, because the police department is what he has always wanted to do. And he has always wanted to live up north as well. I just feel like him moving will hurt our relationship more. His response was "well it wouldnt be much different from how often we see eachother right now.". I told him I want whats best for him and will stand by him through whatever, I just hate that he is leaving me. He replied "Who said anything about me leaving you?" and I said "well, physically, you will be." and he said "Who knows, I might ask you to come."
Lately we have had LIGHT (very light) conversations about marriage, but I dont know if we have been jokingly discussing it or what. I can talk to him about anything, but its almost as though I get shy talking to him about marriage, which is ridiculous because we have been together TWO YEARS and are in love. I'm just scared he will say he's too young for marriage, or something typical of men his age. Especially since all of his friends are still in the "party till you drop" mode.
I'm a little confused, and don't know how to discuss this with him. I would love to spend the rest of my life with him, no doubt that he is the man for me. And someone told me "if the only reason you guys argue is over spending time together, then there's no reason why you should ever be apart."
I don't want to live with him without getting married, thats just my belief. Regardless of how it works out for other people, it just isn't for me.
Any advice here, please?!
How do I get us to talk about our future together without feeling so shy?!
I know, I know , I sound a little ridiculous.
_ _ Is it CRAZY that I can't stop thinking about marriage lately? I just want to start our lives together already. I want to know that when I wake up in the morning, he'll be the first thing I see. I want to build a home, a family (eventually), and a future with him. Everyone on here says we're too young. We have been dating TWO years and have known each other for eight years. We know each other backwards and forwards.
Sorry, just had to add that.