Why are parents so afraid to talk about sex?

I read so many questions on here from teens asking if they are pregnant. Half of them have never even had sex! They think humping with clothes on could get them pregnant. Where are they getting their information?! I think it's a parents' responsible to teach their children how the reproductive system works and how to stay safe. Honestly most parents were probably having sex in their teens too, so why are they so surprised when they find out their own kids are doing it? What iss the big deal about the 'sex talk' and why aren't more parents explaining things?
 
There are a lot of people out there that are just not comfortable discussing sex-even between other adults much less children! Seventeen magazine did an article on this subject and in it they found that teens whose parents are open and available for discussion are LESS likely to be doing it than teens whose parents don't talk to them! I started talking to my daughter about it when she was eleven and have gradually increased the depth of the conversations as she has gotten older! She even tells her friends that if they have questions that they don't feel right asking their parents that they can talk to me! I just have to add that she is almost 18, a senior this year, still a virgin and has DUMPED boys for pressuring her to "do the deed".
 
I have no idea. I was about 9 years old when my mom talked to me about periods and sex. She thought it was better I be properly informed and use what I know wisely then wait to get half storied from school nurses and make stupid choices because I was ill informed. Mom took me to the doctor to put me on the pill at 15 when I had my first serious boy friend and told me I could always come to her if I needed to. My brother was given condoms at about 12 or 13 years old. It was never permission for us to have sex...but rather a precaution as we all know kids will do what they want when they want. I was 17 before I actually had sex for the first time and I was always the most informed kid at school in our health classes. I am 24 years old now and 37 weeks pregnant with my first child...a baby girl. I have been happily married almost 5 years and never had an STD or a unplanned pregnancy. I plan to talk to my daughter early and give her all the information I can. I want her to make smart choices whenever she decides to make them and feel like she can come to me if she needs advice or help. I would rather my daughter come to me if she was 13 and pregnant then go off to some abortion clinic by herself and make the biggest mistake of her life.
 
i think that they think if they talk about it their kid is gonna get curious and actually do it, but its the same thing i think cuz if they don't know about it they are still gonna do it right? so its a damned if you do damned if you don't situation.
 
I think if parents inform there kids they are scared they know how to and how to be safe and I think its like blinders if I dont see it and dont say it it wont happen. rather stupid I was lucky my mom was always honest when I was a teen and I believe thanks to that I didnt have sex till I was 17. so I think its a plus for an open relationship. I feel sorry for the teens that have not a clue. they will find out-one way.
 
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