Why are my inlaws complaining about me being pregnant.?

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mommy of 1 expecting 1

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They act like im mentally retarted.
i have a 2 yr old, so u would think i know how expencive they are.

each one of them always make little comments, and saying i need an abortion

i am 16 weeks pregnant!! its like.. wth?

my question is...
is this a good reason to get a restraining order?
can they sue me to see my baby?
these r some thing i worry about.

they even had the nerve to tell me how they are gonna be stuck paying for the baby.
and im like..realy? so my job isnt as good as urs?
it kinda ticks me off.

is anyone elses inlaws like this?

and if i cant get a restraining order, HOW do i cut them out of my life completly?.
Its not just his parents

its his parents, aunts,grandmothers, step parents.

they all just hate me.
 
well the fact that you want to get a restraining order because your in laws dont think you should have a baby shows that you probably are way to immature to be a mother of two, much less one. You also seem to be more concerned with getting back at your inlaws than allowing your future child to see its grandparents. That also shows your lack of maturity and selflessness. Shame on you.
 
Your partner needs to speak with them, since they are his parents. He should let them know that you are NOT going to get an abortion no matter what they say. Grandparents have no legal right to see their grandchildren, but if you try to keep your baby from your inlaws it is likely to cause problems between you and your partner. If you don't like the way they are treating you, then stop seeing them. Your partner should be standing up for your and he should not be allowing them to treat you that way. Tell them they are no longer welcome in your home if they are going to treat you that way. Your partner can go to their house to see them.
 
Well i don't think you need a restraining order and i think the only real reason you would need to keep them out of your child's life (which is completely your decision) is if they were being emotionally abusive to him/her in some way, such as mistreating them or bad mouthing you in front of the child. If i were you i would not stand for this however whether you were with the father or not. The next time they made these rude comments to me i would tell them flat out that i have one child so i know what it takes to raise one because i have done just fine raising him/her. I have a job so i will support my own child and you have no need nor do i want you to buy anything for my child with your nasty and negative attitude. I would tell them they are not responsible for this baby in ANY way because YOU are the parent so they will not be "stuck" with anything and i would make it very clear and blunt to them that it was MY body and i would not be murdering MY child based on their unwanted opinions and if they had any more opinions they could very well direct them to their son or in the privacy of their own home because you were enjoying your pregnancy and really didn't care for their hateful negative attitude. You NEED to stand up for yourself and your child and if your husband/boyfriend gets angered by this than he isn't much of a man for allowing and agreeing with his parents for attacking you like that and i wouldn't be bothered with how he felt about it either. When i recently found out i was pregnant with my fourth it was a shock because i as not ready for another because i am going through some things. However when she started in on me with the what was i going to do i didn't need this i told her flat out that i knew what i was up against and her negative attitude wasn't going to help anything so she could keep her nasty remarks to herself or say them behind my back i didn't care which but i didn't want to hear them. It cut her off real quick and she got the point that i did not want her nasty comments or opinions on the situation. good luck hun and congrats on your pregnancy, the only person you need to worry about being happy with your pregnancy is YOU nobody else!
 
Wow mine didnt go as far as saying abortion but they were not happy they swore they would have to pay for my baby even though my hubby and i own our own condo and pa our own friggin bills! Just cuz they support his sis and her kids.. I do not think you can get restrainning order just dont ans their calls and tell your hubby u dont care to see them since they cannot treat you with the respect you deserve. I know my hubby sis ended up pregnant and the first thing his mom does is come and tell me what type of BC am i one as if its any of her business!? Not like i got asking them for money..
 
I would deal with it this way.

The next time one of his relatives says something mean, you are to clearly and confidently say "The next person who suggests that I abort this baby, will NEVER get to see it, hold it, or speak to it - what you are doing is evil and I will keep you away from my children"

Don't get mad, don't shout - just be very clear about your stand on this.

You also need to get your partner to defend you, he needs to speak up to these people and behave like a good husband and father.

Good Luck!
 
You can only get a restraining order against them if they are harassing you or threatening you in anyway. The sad part is that restraining order won't be against your child unless you prove they are a danger to your child when you have him/her.

They can't sue you because they really have no connection to the child. Really only the other parent can sue if they are paying child support and want to see their child, so no they can not sue you for anything.

My in-laws are half and half I guess. My mother in law is very excited [first girl in the family since she was born] so she wants to help and be there the whole way. My father in law has never been there but minds his own business. He wasn't a part of his son's life [my husband] so we don't have a problem with him not being a part of his grand-daughters life. We actually would prefer him to keep away because we aren't close to him and we don't trust him. My daughter will have 2 wonderful parents, 3 grandparents, and 1 great grandparent.

My own grandparents on my fathers side did not agree with me having a child but it's not their business there fore they will not be a part of my child life unless they decide to change their attitude towards my decisions.
 
they can't sue you for anything like that they don't support your child and it's not like the baby belongs to them.
tell them you can't stand them and that they need to fuck off
and mind there own business and let you be.
just like that
it's the only thing that will work.

Good luck and keep your beautiful baby
 
i had "inlaws" like that. i wasnt married, and i had my son in oct 06. the babys dad was in the army, so he wasnt able to be at the birth, but his PSYCHO mother was, and she immediately called him telling him the baby looked nothing like him, etc. she was crazy. long story short, i was living in OK and when i decided to move back to VA with my family, they filed for an emergency protective order, and since i had one day notice, i didnt have an attorney. they got granted temporary custody. i was devistated. that was in Feb 08, and i still do not have custody, but i go to court on Nov 2, and im really thinking ill get him back fully, he hates his grandparents. every time i have him for my visits, he does not want to go to them. its sad. anyway, not sure if this even helped, but i just thought id let you know what COULD happen. hopefully theyre not as horrible as mine were. :) good luck!!
 
i had "inlaws" like that. i wasnt married, and i had my son in oct 06. the babys dad was in the army, so he wasnt able to be at the birth, but his PSYCHO mother was, and she immediately called him telling him the baby looked nothing like him, etc. she was crazy. long story short, i was living in OK and when i decided to move back to VA with my family, they filed for an emergency protective order, and since i had one day notice, i didnt have an attorney. they got granted temporary custody. i was devistated. that was in Feb 08, and i still do not have custody, but i go to court on Nov 2, and im really thinking ill get him back fully, he hates his grandparents. every time i have him for my visits, he does not want to go to them. its sad. anyway, not sure if this even helped, but i just thought id let you know what COULD happen. hopefully theyre not as horrible as mine were. :) good luck!!
 
They're not physically doing anything to you. They are just commenting on your situation and these are things honestly you need to be ignoring because people are going to say what they want when they want and there's really nothing no one can do about it. As far as blocking them out the police will def look at you as if you were retarded if you requested a restraining order against someone that has not threaten to harm you or hasn't don't anything to you. Just stay away from them. I haven't experience this but if i were to that's how I would handle.
 
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