Why am I so fearful of men?

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Elsie

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Okay, so I'm 13. My mom's bf is nice & good to her and all that. I'm terrified of him. Also, all other men. Even in my family. I'm petfried of my Dad.. Is this caused by abuse? Also, I'm not what so ever afraid of any women I know. Plus, if a guy touches me like hugging I flip out. I scream and cry/ kick and do whatever it takes to be let go. No rude comments please. Thanks<3
 
I thunk it is because you are a introverts that prefers to stay indoors and do not like to mix around with friends(especially male), and plus the fact that male are quite impulse and hot-tempered, therefore you have this psychological fear in your heart. Furthermore, maybe your relationships with your mom is better than your dad, therefore you prefer to stay close with your mum than your dad, as your dad might be working, and the time you spend with youe dad is not much, therefore if your dad trys to be friender to you, you do not really know how to express your own feelings out.

Al the best to you.............
 
You could be repressing a traumatizing event involving males and it has affected you. More likely, though, you just find them intimidating because they seem so different from you. Talk to your mum about it, I bet she could help you.
 
Yes, if your father abused you than a fear of men and affection from men is something that might develop. In order to solve this, you need to accept that while, this is a fear you have, you aren't going to let it ruin your life. Try talking to men more and make more male friends. If your too afraid to do that, you could earn trust by making friends with boys online and gradually build yourself up. Keep in mind that abuse isn't something to take lightly and you may want to find methods of overcoming any trauma that may have resulted from that, through therapy, meditation, book learning, ect.
 
I'm scared of men but in a different way!! I don't like men getting close to me as so many have hurt & lied to me...

I would say you might have seen something as a child to do with a man abusing a woman or someone..!! You might not be able to think back to when but it's stayed with you..!! If you see someone abusing another person as a child it would have a huge impact on you...!! Especially if is a loved one!!

Not all men will attack you!! I would say you might need to have a little chat with a medical person or family doctor to see what cause this & how to overcome this!!

Your not mad and I hope no one is cruel to you about this!! Hope I've helped
 
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