Who usually pays for the wedding, the parents of the bride, groom, both or other?

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I am 23 years old woman and currently single but my parents told me the other day that if I ever got married, they would contribute no more than $1000 to my wedding. Do the parents of the bride usually pay for the wedding or is not not how tradition works anymore? They said that since they had to pay for their wedding on with their own money (my Mom's parents were both dead by the time she got married so that's why) then I should too. Does that seem weird to anyone or just how it goes?
 
Typically the bride and groom pay for the wedding themselves. It is believed by most people that if you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to figure out how to pay for it yourselves and no one is responsible for doing so.
 
usually the parents of the bride pay for most of the wedding but it just depends on the parents. with my wedding my mom paid for most of it, but my husband's parents paid for rehearsal dinner, a portion of our honeymoon, and the photographer, and the open bar at the reception but thats because my husband's parents are very wealthy and my mom just has a limited income. my husband and i had to pay for some too. we paid for the dj, the wedding party's gifts, our bridal suite for the night of rehearsal dinner and the wedding night, me and my bridesmaids hair and makeup, and a few other little things. our wedding was a total of about $40,000. my mom probably paid $25,000 my inlaws paids around $12,000 and we paid about $3,000.
 
It's your wedding, your marriage, and your responsibility. Why does it seem weird to you that your parents ONLY offered you $1,000? Earn a dollar if you want to do something that costs money. Your parents aren't obligated to get into debt over something that you want. If the parents want to contribute then that's generous of them to do. If you & your fiance are broke then that's your issue.
 
Used to be the girls parents. But, I think it is o.k. to help pay with your bf too.
 
tradition says both parents pay, normaly mainly the brides parents pay for most of it while the groom and parents pay for like the flowers and stuff.

but today it's the bride and groom themselves that pay unless the parents say other wise or offer.

my parents are stickler for tradition.. my father wants to pay as much as he can towards the wedding and my mom seconds it because i am the only daughter.
 
Traditionally the bride's parents pay for the wedding, the grooms parents pay for the engagement dinner. My husband and I both paid for our own wedding so that no one would tell us what to do and how to do it (it didn't really work). If your parents contribute $1000 it's very nice of them--they really shouldn't be obligated to pay anything (I think).
 
Marriage and weddings are becoming so different now, not going by tradition is normal. I do believe the "tradition" is the brides parents pay for the wedding, but there's plenty of weddings the brides parents don't approve of so you, your groom, their parents, or whoever else wants to can contribute or pay for the whole thing.
 
Tradition is it's the parent's of the bride who pay for most everything, if it's a first marriage and the bride is fairly young (like 23 or there about). The groom's side pays for the men's clothing, bride's bouquet, any fees for the wedding ceremony site (not the reception) and the gratuity or fee for the officiant. I can't remember if they also spring for the rehearsal dinner or not.

Weddings are expensive and many people just don't have the money to throw one, no matter how much they may want to do that for their little girl. It is quite an extravagance.

Many couples, especially if they are getting a little older do it all themselves. They opt out of the lavish wedding and reception, in favor of an intimate destination wedding and honeymoon. It's much more practical and more fun.
 
i m from india and the trasition here is that all the expenses of the wedding are borne by the parents of the bride.
the only expense borne by the groom is when they throw a party after the wedding.
 
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