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Does anyone have any ideas? My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and living together for most of (strange circumstances, not something either of us would normally do). This is the first serious relationship he's been in, and the first relationship he's had in a long while. Recently, we moved up north to work at a couples only resort and I feel like I'm the only person here not getting any. We have sex maybe once a month and only if I initiate it. This usually only happens when he's been drinking, too, which I know is unhealthy. In the past few months, I don't get hugs or kisses goodbye, just a "hey" when I come home. Other than the intimacy, everything is just great -- except I'm starting to feel like a roommate or best friend instead of a sexy, desired, girlfriend.
I've tried talking to him, and he doesn't respond. He's definitely not cheating, and doesn't watch porn. He doesn't masturbate much at all, but also doesn't have problems getting it up. He just doesn't seem interested.
Do I try to talk to him again? I feel like I brood about it all day, then come down harder than I expect to when we talk about it. I don't want to blame him entirely, because I might be the problem, as well.
Or do I just back off for a while and let him come to me? (although he never really initiated anything anyway, but I think a lack of self-confidence and experience played into that) I'm afraid if I back off, we'll get in a habit of being non-intimate and will forget to kiss each other goodbye and things like that.
Sometimes I wonder if he's just unhappy, and would maybe break up with me except for the fact we're stuck in a little employee-housing cabin together, but at the same time, we talk about our life plans for a business and things all the time, so I know he is looking for commitment.
DO I back off? talk to him? (there are no counsellors up here. forget that) or does anyone have any ideas to spice things up (there's no stores, really, or anywhere to go on dates, either). I thought the pioneers just sat in their cabins all winter and made babies because they had nothing else to do -- my winter is going to be lonely if nothing changes.
i also wanted to mention that i`ve started to feel attracted to a colleague (who is not single and who I would never make a move on), I think I`m just looking at what other guys have that mine doesn`t. I don`t think I would be looking at all if I felt excited about my relationship and wasn`t needing anything
I've tried talking to him, and he doesn't respond. He's definitely not cheating, and doesn't watch porn. He doesn't masturbate much at all, but also doesn't have problems getting it up. He just doesn't seem interested.
Do I try to talk to him again? I feel like I brood about it all day, then come down harder than I expect to when we talk about it. I don't want to blame him entirely, because I might be the problem, as well.
Or do I just back off for a while and let him come to me? (although he never really initiated anything anyway, but I think a lack of self-confidence and experience played into that) I'm afraid if I back off, we'll get in a habit of being non-intimate and will forget to kiss each other goodbye and things like that.
Sometimes I wonder if he's just unhappy, and would maybe break up with me except for the fact we're stuck in a little employee-housing cabin together, but at the same time, we talk about our life plans for a business and things all the time, so I know he is looking for commitment.
DO I back off? talk to him? (there are no counsellors up here. forget that) or does anyone have any ideas to spice things up (there's no stores, really, or anywhere to go on dates, either). I thought the pioneers just sat in their cabins all winter and made babies because they had nothing else to do -- my winter is going to be lonely if nothing changes.
i also wanted to mention that i`ve started to feel attracted to a colleague (who is not single and who I would never make a move on), I think I`m just looking at what other guys have that mine doesn`t. I don`t think I would be looking at all if I felt excited about my relationship and wasn`t needing anything