Romance is but a Dance
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Please read on because I guarantee that this isn't a boring read 
First off, there's this guy from my university that I've met last year through a mutual friend and he recently asked me to hang out with him during the winter holidays (we always talk to each other when we see each other at school). We ended up having a really amazing time together and we had 5 hours of nonstop conversation about anything and everything about life. We ended up getting the same thing for lunch (I decided which meal I wanted and he then decided to get the same thing as me) and we also ended up buying the same flavoured drink when we were at the mall (again, he decided to order what I ordered). He subtly let me know that he's single by telling me that he didn't go skiing with his friends because they were all couples. While we were talking at the bench in the mall, he slowly moved his foot towards mine such that our feet were touching. I let our feet touch for a few seconds then I moved my foot away (not too far away). We also maintained contact throughout the entire break through MSN and text messaging while we're not with each other and he always seems really upbeat when he talks with me and replies really quickly. He also asked me to hang out with him again with him and his friends shortly after our first outing but it ended up getting cancelled because his friends were busy.
A few days after I let him know that he's such a nice and genuine guy and that guys like him are hard to find these days and I'm lucky to have met him, he told me that he's so glad to have received the email that I've sent him and that he has never been so touched by other emails before. He told me that he really appreciates me and admires me as a close friend as now is not the perfect time for him to start a relationship. He says that he still has some issues to solve and needs time to figure something in his life. He says that right now, there are so many problems that make him live for others and he's a person who believes that there will be a time in life when everything is ready for you and that he's getting ready for that time as soon as possible. He says that I'm the only girl that he has ever met that has such a nice heart and if he were not stuck in this situation, he would definitely ask me out first. He also said that he still sees a chance that we could be together. He kept on making sure that I was okay and repeated his point many times and asked if we could still be friends. He also kept on thanking me for my understanding towards his situation. He then asked me if I'm going to this info session next week for school and to give him a shout if I am going.
I for one know that university is really stressful and we're both very indebted because of our tuition fees and none of us have a stable job yet. He's also an international student and is currently living at his uncle's house and therefore has to live by his uncle's schedule. He also told me that he has never been to the casino before and he also doesn't have a car license yet when I told him that I've been to a casino before and that I love to drive. He says that the reason why he doesn't drive is because he hates it when people around him get impatient (say if he was waiting to make a left turn and the cars behind were waiting for him to turn). He's also not as fluent as me in English because he's only been in Canada for the past 3 years (but his English is quite good and I thought he's been in Canada for a really long time when I first met him last year).
The day after he told me about the fact that he's not ready for a relationship, I went out and had a blast with my friends and didn't go on msn that night. The following night, I went on msn to chat with my friends and he came online shortly after just to talk to me but I was quite aloof with him because I still needed time to digest the facts and think about what I really want. Basically, he was the only one who was keeping the conversation alive. Not too long after, I told him that I needed to go sleep because I had to meet up with my friends the following morning and he knows that I usually don't sleep that early. After we said good night to each other, he immediately went offline. Mind you, I still haven't told him whether or not I'm going to the school info sessions yet. Then on Friday night, I realized that he sent me an offline message Friday afternoon while I was out with my friends, asking me if I'm free the coming Thursday to visit a law firm with him because he's interested in joining this law association thing. I gave him a reply yesterday saying that I'm not planning to go because I haven't been getting enough "me time" lately.
So my question is, what do you all think he's trying to do? Is he interested or not?
One more thing, ever since he found out I don't use facebook, he stopped using it too. I found out through my friend's facebook account because I was checking out his account. Mind you, he used to put updates on his wall on a regular basis but ever since he found out I don't use facebook, he stopped putting updates (it's been awhile now).
Not sure why he always decides to follow what I do hehe
Lastly, he also told me about his phobias and said that he doesn't usually tell people about them.
First off, there's this guy from my university that I've met last year through a mutual friend and he recently asked me to hang out with him during the winter holidays (we always talk to each other when we see each other at school). We ended up having a really amazing time together and we had 5 hours of nonstop conversation about anything and everything about life. We ended up getting the same thing for lunch (I decided which meal I wanted and he then decided to get the same thing as me) and we also ended up buying the same flavoured drink when we were at the mall (again, he decided to order what I ordered). He subtly let me know that he's single by telling me that he didn't go skiing with his friends because they were all couples. While we were talking at the bench in the mall, he slowly moved his foot towards mine such that our feet were touching. I let our feet touch for a few seconds then I moved my foot away (not too far away). We also maintained contact throughout the entire break through MSN and text messaging while we're not with each other and he always seems really upbeat when he talks with me and replies really quickly. He also asked me to hang out with him again with him and his friends shortly after our first outing but it ended up getting cancelled because his friends were busy.
A few days after I let him know that he's such a nice and genuine guy and that guys like him are hard to find these days and I'm lucky to have met him, he told me that he's so glad to have received the email that I've sent him and that he has never been so touched by other emails before. He told me that he really appreciates me and admires me as a close friend as now is not the perfect time for him to start a relationship. He says that he still has some issues to solve and needs time to figure something in his life. He says that right now, there are so many problems that make him live for others and he's a person who believes that there will be a time in life when everything is ready for you and that he's getting ready for that time as soon as possible. He says that I'm the only girl that he has ever met that has such a nice heart and if he were not stuck in this situation, he would definitely ask me out first. He also said that he still sees a chance that we could be together. He kept on making sure that I was okay and repeated his point many times and asked if we could still be friends. He also kept on thanking me for my understanding towards his situation. He then asked me if I'm going to this info session next week for school and to give him a shout if I am going.
I for one know that university is really stressful and we're both very indebted because of our tuition fees and none of us have a stable job yet. He's also an international student and is currently living at his uncle's house and therefore has to live by his uncle's schedule. He also told me that he has never been to the casino before and he also doesn't have a car license yet when I told him that I've been to a casino before and that I love to drive. He says that the reason why he doesn't drive is because he hates it when people around him get impatient (say if he was waiting to make a left turn and the cars behind were waiting for him to turn). He's also not as fluent as me in English because he's only been in Canada for the past 3 years (but his English is quite good and I thought he's been in Canada for a really long time when I first met him last year).
The day after he told me about the fact that he's not ready for a relationship, I went out and had a blast with my friends and didn't go on msn that night. The following night, I went on msn to chat with my friends and he came online shortly after just to talk to me but I was quite aloof with him because I still needed time to digest the facts and think about what I really want. Basically, he was the only one who was keeping the conversation alive. Not too long after, I told him that I needed to go sleep because I had to meet up with my friends the following morning and he knows that I usually don't sleep that early. After we said good night to each other, he immediately went offline. Mind you, I still haven't told him whether or not I'm going to the school info sessions yet. Then on Friday night, I realized that he sent me an offline message Friday afternoon while I was out with my friends, asking me if I'm free the coming Thursday to visit a law firm with him because he's interested in joining this law association thing. I gave him a reply yesterday saying that I'm not planning to go because I haven't been getting enough "me time" lately.
So my question is, what do you all think he's trying to do? Is he interested or not?
One more thing, ever since he found out I don't use facebook, he stopped using it too. I found out through my friend's facebook account because I was checking out his account. Mind you, he used to put updates on his wall on a regular basis but ever since he found out I don't use facebook, he stopped putting updates (it's been awhile now).
Not sure why he always decides to follow what I do hehe
Lastly, he also told me about his phobias and said that he doesn't usually tell people about them.