When your child whines......?

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do you just give into him/her or do you then reprimand them for whining as well?
 
I have a 16 month old who doesn't really speak so unfortuanlty all she does is whine and sadly, sometimes i do give in, but not all the time.

And no, i don't repimand my daughter when she does. If she whines about something and she can not have it, i walk away, and usually, she'd stop and find something else that interests her.
 
We've had a very strict 'no whining' rule in our house from day one - and that includes the grownups! It is the one type of behavior I simply will not tolerate.

So when it starts, I put on my best serious face, come down to their level and say 'We do not whine in this house, we speak.' I never really had to punish for whining.
 
I never give into anything, and I don't reprimand for whining. I ask her to show me what she wants, and let her be if she continues, but it takes only a few minutes for it to be over, because she doesn't get any attention. THEN we deal with whatever is at hand...
 
I make my son stop whining and tell me what he wants.....he doesn't get anything if he keeps it up.. I tell my 6 year old son, "You do not get what you want with that tone of voice. Fix it and ask again." That's it.

My son doesn't get anything when he whines. He has to stop first, and ask me in a normal tone of voice. If he doesn't want to stop his whining, I walk away and find something to do: laundry, vacuum, make the bed, etc. and when he realizes that I'm not going to give in to him, he will come get me and ask NICELY for what he wants. I tell him to stop whining and ask the right way. if he doesn't he doesn't get what he wants and goes in timeout.

My son can be a super good whiner...When we go out and he starts this...I totally ignore him and begin playing with my baby boy and making my baby laugh my older son completely stops and starts laughing because he wants to play to...It has always works for me...It's so funny when his face changes in a matter of seconds..I then ask him what he wanted, sometimes it is a reasonably request and sometimes not....

I also try to discuss with him, what is making him whine? If it's because he wants something and I am saying no (this accounts for about 99.9% of the cases), I tell him why the answer is no.

He has learned that if he wants something he needs to ask in a reasonable tone of voice.
 
i tell him/her to stop whining and ask the right way. if she doesn't she doesn't get what she wants and goes in timeout.
 
He can whine all he wants, he's not getting a damn thing until he learns to ask properly. It's one thing to be one year old, and just learning how to speak and articulate what you want, it's another to be two-three years old, and just whining because he sees his little pre-school friends doing it. If he's whining for something, and it's unreasonable, I'll just send him to his room, and he can whine and cry there. He can come out whenever he feels he's ready to properly say, "Mommy, can/may I..." Then I'll most likely give it to him...

There will be no spoiled children in my household...
 
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