When you and your spouse or boyfriend argue is it o.k. that your spouse or boyfriend calls you names? My husband calls me a B***h. I have never called him names and we can't even argue about the bills without him calling me that. I feel it is unacceptable. I have always tried to be respectful to him, up until recently and I have started calling him names back. I know that is not right, but I have tried to talk to him about it, but he still does it and now he does it at the most awkward times. I need advice, because he has now started saying it to my 17 year old daughter (not his). I am sick of it!!!
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when you and your spouse argue is it ok to............?
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red207pilot
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When your daughter marries a guy who's just like your husband (since you're teaching her, and she's learning) are you going to let HER husband call you a b**tch too? I'm just wondering.
Revolution
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No thats not ok. That's seriously disrespectful. I wouldn't put up with it, and I wouldn't stoop to his level by doing the same to him. That's basically telling him its ok to call you names.
I cant believe he would do that to your 17 yr. old daughter. To me, a man who can call a child a b**** is no man at all. I say, you sit down and attempt to have a calm discussion about name calling and how you dont want it to happen anymore under any circumstances. That's called verbal abuse and you shouldnt put up with it. If he cant sit down and be reasonable about this, then I think he's not a good enough man to be a good husband to you and you should contemplate a separation. That kind of stuff has no place in a marriage. The rest of the world can call you a b**** but your husband should be your shelter from the world.
I cant believe he would do that to your 17 yr. old daughter. To me, a man who can call a child a b**** is no man at all. I say, you sit down and attempt to have a calm discussion about name calling and how you dont want it to happen anymore under any circumstances. That's called verbal abuse and you shouldnt put up with it. If he cant sit down and be reasonable about this, then I think he's not a good enough man to be a good husband to you and you should contemplate a separation. That kind of stuff has no place in a marriage. The rest of the world can call you a b**** but your husband should be your shelter from the world.
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CiCi Mabuti
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Civility is one of the basic tenets of love so absolutely NOT OK to call names..We all slip occasionally and say something we regret. Arguments should be civil if you are up in years (as I am) and mature. So no it's not ok..I feel like 2 lawyers arguing a point would be a fine way to solve conflict but could many times be freakin' hilarious! Few 'lawyer' like me. I can put a fine point on a pinhead honey! But the greatest commandment we were ever given was to 'love one another as ourselves.' And nobody shouts 'names' at themselves. I always was taught that namecalling was the last resort of the defeated in a debate. Too wordy? lol read again..!
*can we say Draper= DD henceforth to avoid misinterpretation? thx <3
*can we say Draper= DD henceforth to avoid misinterpretation? thx <3
dwbaldeagle
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no it's not ok. people do argue but he should not call you
names like that he has no respect for you what so ever.
names like that he has no respect for you what so ever.
Every couple has arguments but when they turn into personal attacks, it's no longer an argument. It's a fight to be right, to be heard, to be the last one speaking, and to cut the other person down.
Your husband sounds as if he may need a lesson in what's right and wrong in arguments. Not agreeing on everything is OK but turning everything into a fight and becoming verbally abusive is not. Either you need to say something to him or he needs to go to counseling to learn to control that anger and that mouth. There could be deeper issues than just the arguments you regularly have or he could just be a jerk and wouldn't you rather figure out the problem now and be able to fix it (or walk away) before it becomes much, much more?
Your husband sounds as if he may need a lesson in what's right and wrong in arguments. Not agreeing on everything is OK but turning everything into a fight and becoming verbally abusive is not. Either you need to say something to him or he needs to go to counseling to learn to control that anger and that mouth. There could be deeper issues than just the arguments you regularly have or he could just be a jerk and wouldn't you rather figure out the problem now and be able to fix it (or walk away) before it becomes much, much more?