When people argue why do some go with silent treatment?

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Thomas V

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My mother and I have had a disagreement about her lack of money over the last couple of years. My mom decided that she didn't want to be involved with bills or money and wanted me to do it all. Her income never met expenses along the way so I sold a lot of her stocks to cover expenses. When a check came from these stocks she didn't even want to deposit them in the bank and left it for me to do. I wanted her to do this so she knew she got credit for them and that I wasn't putting them in my account. Now that she sees how little money she has left she complains about it and tells me she should have more. I have basically avoided her over all of this and don't talk to her if I can avoid it. A girl I work with said her family no longer talks but I don't know what the disagreement was about. When people have a disagreement about something why is not talking and giving silent treatment the way me and some people go about it? Is it because we know the person will complain about it again and we don't want to hear it or what?
 
you are probably avoiding it because you dont want to be confrontational. either that or you dont want to deal with the drama. its her money and if she doesnt want to learn how to budget that money that should not be put on you to decide that for her. sounds like it wasnt a disagreement but a venting.....she has no one to blame but herself for her lack of money
 
You might have to agree to disagree and leave it at that...silent treatment isn't a bad thing sometimes. The length of time between discussions is time for you to gather your thoughts and make sense of what might not have in the heat of the moment. There are steps to solving these issues, and it can't all be said accurately in one debate...and your situation sounds complex. It's immature to completely stop talking to one another....come on, we all have differences and grudges, and they need to be dropped once in a while. Family is family.
 
I Just go silent when im sad or angry, but if they force me to talk like they wont stop annoying me, you better run because it does not turn pretty. im mostly silent all the time but you can tell im angry by the look on my face.
 
The "silent treatment" is all about trying to control another person. That person is really a bully and as for your Mom, she is selfish, too. She is acting like a little girl not caring about money or that she doesn't have enough to continue her lifestyle. She want you to figure it out. Separate your money and your Mom's money before you find yourself working to pay all her expenses and then she will make sure you never have a life of your own. She is both controlling and selfish. If you life with her, move out. The older she gets, the more dependent she will get on you. It will only get worse.
 
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