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nsheehan1001
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question you about sex? I know every church/priest/religion will be different. Im just wondering if its common to ask about it, or if the priest would just offer his suggestions.
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When meeting with a priest to discuss getting married, do they typically
During our premarital counseling, the minister basically gave us a 5 minute talk about how its an important part of marriage, had given us "homework" for us to talk together about our feelings and expectations toward sex and recommended some books. He didn't ask us any questions about if we were having sex, etc. He was clearly uncomfortable and quickly passed over the topic. Baptist minister.
I have had friends that have been asked by their ministers point blank if they were virgins but I think that kind of question is really rare. When they admitted they weren't they got a mini-lecture and then the minister moved on after getting them acknowledge what the church teaches on the subject.
I have had friends that have been asked by their ministers point blank if they were virgins but I think that kind of question is really rare. When they admitted they weren't they got a mini-lecture and then the minister moved on after getting them acknowledge what the church teaches on the subject.
Just tryin' to help
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Initial meeting or not? The initial meeting is standard information. The final meeting is... well, I've made it my mission to tell as many people as possible what happened to me because I was so shocked and would've liked a bit of forewarning.
They question you and your husband separately. Standard questions, who is your MoH, Best Man; followed by some weirder ones, are/were you pressured into this marriage by anyone; followed by the truly bizarre. I was asked if I had ever "laid down with" my husband's father or brother. I was so shocked that I had to ask the priest to repeat and explain himself!
They do ask you questions together, too: How do you deal with arguments, do you plan on having children. My priest discussed the religious views on birth control.
Most of the topics are covered in Pre Cana, so the priest doesn't say/do much.
They question you and your husband separately. Standard questions, who is your MoH, Best Man; followed by some weirder ones, are/were you pressured into this marriage by anyone; followed by the truly bizarre. I was asked if I had ever "laid down with" my husband's father or brother. I was so shocked that I had to ask the priest to repeat and explain himself!
They do ask you questions together, too: How do you deal with arguments, do you plan on having children. My priest discussed the religious views on birth control.
Most of the topics are covered in Pre Cana, so the priest doesn't say/do much.
Michelle G
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It really does depend on the priest and the church.
I'm a Catholic and our priest didn't ask us anything about sex. We also didn't have separate interviews with him, just two interviews with the two of us together to fill in all the necessary forms and answer the questions.
At the pre-marriage counselling they talked about how it was important in a marriage and they talked about the contraception methods that the church approves of but that was it.
So it is dependant on the individual but I will say that I've never heard of a priest asking out-right if a couple are virgins and/or abstaining. But I'm curious as to what you mean by "offer his suggestions"... suggestions about what?
I'm a Catholic and our priest didn't ask us anything about sex. We also didn't have separate interviews with him, just two interviews with the two of us together to fill in all the necessary forms and answer the questions.
At the pre-marriage counselling they talked about how it was important in a marriage and they talked about the contraception methods that the church approves of but that was it.
So it is dependant on the individual but I will say that I've never heard of a priest asking out-right if a couple are virgins and/or abstaining. But I'm curious as to what you mean by "offer his suggestions"... suggestions about what?
I'm not sure about priests... since they're usually virgins and know nothing about sex lol. But a lot of ministers & pastors mention it during premarital counseling. It is a source of discord for many couples when one spouse wants it every day and the other doesn't. Ours discussed it briefly in premarital counseling.