When a friend attempts to puts you down.?

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RIGHT. So I have this friend who constantly trys to put me down because he thinks im getting too confident which i dont think i am at all. If i say 'call me back please' he says.. "Yeah cause u probably got all these boys to call" and im like "Where did this all come from?".

He confesses he likes me like 3 times now and i dont see him like that so let him down gently. But he comes back 10 x stronger :S. Now its like he is trying to lower my confidence by judging me n constantly picking arguments which is why i dreaded picking up his calls... so now im not tlking to him after a big argument and he doesnt even know what he's done wrong.

Dont get me wrong he used to be a great friend, bubbly, funny, good adviser.. but everything suddenly changed..

Break the friendship? because i dont even feel like talkin to him at the moment. But there's still that awkwardness left untouched.
 
I think you should get together with him and talk this all out! It sounds like there is a whole heap of stuff you two haven't really explained to each other and maybe one or both of you has got the wrong end of the stick. Maybe you accidentally flirt or give him some kind of signals that you're interested and this confuses him? I don't think he's trying to "put you down", it sounds more like jibes of jealousy. He's obviously a little hurt that you don't see him the way he sees you, and you need to explain this properly. Tell him that while you care about him very much, you're not interested in a romantic relationship with him because you value him too much as a friend. Assure him that, no matter what happens, he'll always be a close friend. Make sure you ask him about the comments he's been making and tell him how it makes you feel. It would be a shame to lose such a good friendship over this. Good luck!
 
i have no body really i can call mine but still and moreover on top of it my parents and all the people just try and put me down . i still talk to them but try and not get too involved in their life .
 
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