31 y/o healthy, active guy, in a relationship with a 24 y/o attractive girl for >2 years. She confided to me that he has no sex drive anymore. Things used to be great, but for > 8 months he has no interest in sex or intimacy at all (no kissing, or anything that could lead to sex). She is very frustrated as she says she is a very sexual person.
He confides that he is turned off by her "approach". She wants sex when she is upset or stressed out and that freaks him out. She comes on too strongly (i.e. "hey, I have no panties on and I want you") type thing. He says he loves her but is happy with a sexless relationship. He admits he dodges her kisses etc. he says he wants to stay with her. She is the "perfect" woman for him "on paper" (i.e. has all the qualities and goals he is looking for).
He is conservative and a bit of a prude (she is opposite). But he is in physically great shape and has been checked for testosterone etc. His past sex lives have been good.
What's up with him? Is he just retreating slowly like many women do? He insists he's not. Other emotional hangups? He swears he is not gay and I believe him. I referred them to counseling and he says he gets nothing out of it but stress.
He confides that he is turned off by her "approach". She wants sex when she is upset or stressed out and that freaks him out. She comes on too strongly (i.e. "hey, I have no panties on and I want you") type thing. He says he loves her but is happy with a sexless relationship. He admits he dodges her kisses etc. he says he wants to stay with her. She is the "perfect" woman for him "on paper" (i.e. has all the qualities and goals he is looking for).
He is conservative and a bit of a prude (she is opposite). But he is in physically great shape and has been checked for testosterone etc. His past sex lives have been good.
What's up with him? Is he just retreating slowly like many women do? He insists he's not. Other emotional hangups? He swears he is not gay and I believe him. I referred them to counseling and he says he gets nothing out of it but stress.