Prenel Kernel
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This is kind of a petty question. Sorry. This morning my wife wanted to take our daughter to the mall. I told her I would go downstairs and scrape the snow and ice off the car for her while she got ready. I would meet her down there. We live in apartments and the car was a few blocks away. She can't pull the car out onto the snowy road so I help her with that too.
I went downstairs and scraped and shoveled for 10 minutes then sat in the car for another 10 minutes. Finally I thought maybe something happened so I went back upstairs. By now it was about 25 minutes since I left. She was talking on the phone and nobody was ready. I said "get off the *&#)$* phone" (she is a phone addict). She got really angry.
I have noticed that my wife likes to get everyone ready and organize everyone while she looks at the internet or sips tea (telling everyone what to do) and then start to get herself ready while everyone is roasting in snowsuits or freezing next to the car. I don't get it. Was I wrong to get angry? I talk about her about this all the time. I think she needs to try to get everyone (including herself) ready to go so no one is standing around frustrated. Or if she needs more time she should say so. Or she can get herself ready and then get the troops moving. It may seem small but when it happens daily it gets really frustrating (for me and the kids). Everyone moving frantically to start their day and then a long wait for mom. We are all moving but she is still standing in her socks talking on the phone and giving out orders to get people moving (not really necessary). Then Dad has everyone ready and she says "OK, I just have to finish my tea, make a phone call, brush my teeth, brush my hair, get dressed.... " Now imagine you are in winter clothes at the front door with 2 kids in snowsuits and she is telling you this.
I have tried talking to her about this nicely many many times. She has the 1 year old from 9-5 while I work. I think she feels this means I should keep my trap shut. Any nice ways to solve this problem? ANyone else have this going on?
I went downstairs and scraped and shoveled for 10 minutes then sat in the car for another 10 minutes. Finally I thought maybe something happened so I went back upstairs. By now it was about 25 minutes since I left. She was talking on the phone and nobody was ready. I said "get off the *&#)$* phone" (she is a phone addict). She got really angry.
I have noticed that my wife likes to get everyone ready and organize everyone while she looks at the internet or sips tea (telling everyone what to do) and then start to get herself ready while everyone is roasting in snowsuits or freezing next to the car. I don't get it. Was I wrong to get angry? I talk about her about this all the time. I think she needs to try to get everyone (including herself) ready to go so no one is standing around frustrated. Or if she needs more time she should say so. Or she can get herself ready and then get the troops moving. It may seem small but when it happens daily it gets really frustrating (for me and the kids). Everyone moving frantically to start their day and then a long wait for mom. We are all moving but she is still standing in her socks talking on the phone and giving out orders to get people moving (not really necessary). Then Dad has everyone ready and she says "OK, I just have to finish my tea, make a phone call, brush my teeth, brush my hair, get dressed.... " Now imagine you are in winter clothes at the front door with 2 kids in snowsuits and she is telling you this.
I have tried talking to her about this nicely many many times. She has the 1 year old from 9-5 while I work. I think she feels this means I should keep my trap shut. Any nice ways to solve this problem? ANyone else have this going on?