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Sir Richard
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Look at it the other way, you would be marrying someone with a huge baggage that he is not going to let go for a long time. Think if you want to live that way.
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Amber
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I am engaged and living with my fiance. I love him more then anything and I know he loves me, but his family is a big problem. One of his sisters has made my life a living hell.. and it's not just the normal stuff in-laws do.. its crazy things like trying to get me arrested for literally nothing and then telling everyone that her brother (my fiance) beats me (completely untrue) and the list goes on...
my fiance understands this and helps as much as he can and is basically just annoyed... but not angry with me about it..
what he can't handle though is the battle between his mom and I. She is the kind of mother who just CAN'T let him go. I can't even list all the things but she comes over to our home and starts cleaning (it is spotless already) and tells me I can't clean and REWASHES his clothes.. and so on and so on.. but what really bothers me is that she has lent him money in the past when he was struggling and, for example, she lent him $450 for his electric bill and then somehow tried to say that she gave him $650... it's just crazy. I mean it's his fault for borrowing it.. but still... we don't have all the extra money she wants so it always causes fights.
well today we got into an argument about her because of the above bill dispute and he decided that it would be best that we end our relationship because I will never be able to accept his family so it will never work..
I just don't know what to say to him. I can't lie and say.. no.. it will be fine.. we'll get along great.. because we won't. but i want to be with him... and I do everything I can to keep the peace... I never let her family know I have a problem, I just bitch to him. i told him I would stop and just vent to myself and he says that he knows I won't be able to do that..
I just don't know what to do or say. This is awful for our relationship to end because of his family...
my fiance understands this and helps as much as he can and is basically just annoyed... but not angry with me about it..
what he can't handle though is the battle between his mom and I. She is the kind of mother who just CAN'T let him go. I can't even list all the things but she comes over to our home and starts cleaning (it is spotless already) and tells me I can't clean and REWASHES his clothes.. and so on and so on.. but what really bothers me is that she has lent him money in the past when he was struggling and, for example, she lent him $450 for his electric bill and then somehow tried to say that she gave him $650... it's just crazy. I mean it's his fault for borrowing it.. but still... we don't have all the extra money she wants so it always causes fights.
well today we got into an argument about her because of the above bill dispute and he decided that it would be best that we end our relationship because I will never be able to accept his family so it will never work..
I just don't know what to say to him. I can't lie and say.. no.. it will be fine.. we'll get along great.. because we won't. but i want to be with him... and I do everything I can to keep the peace... I never let her family know I have a problem, I just bitch to him. i told him I would stop and just vent to myself and he says that he knows I won't be able to do that..
I just don't know what to do or say. This is awful for our relationship to end because of his family...
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avavu
Guest
Everything is cristal clear.You need to start packing.He is not strong enough,not man enough to balance his family and you.So they are more important to him,he is letting you go.If you don't go,you will become their slave,get hurt more,have more drama and problems and end up leaving anyways.save yourself some time energy and heart ache and leave without ever returning.
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avavu
Guest
Everything is cristal clear.You need to start packing.He is not strong enough,not man enough to balance his family and you.So they are more important to him,he is letting you go.If you don't go,you will become their slave,get hurt more,have more drama and problems and end up leaving anyways.save yourself some time energy and heart ache and leave without ever returning.
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avavu
Guest
Everything is cristal clear.You need to start packing.He is not strong enough,not man enough to balance his family and you.So they are more important to him,he is letting you go.If you don't go,you will become their slave,get hurt more,have more drama and problems and end up leaving anyways.save yourself some time energy and heart ache and leave without ever returning.
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Karla Kay
Guest
Honey, move on. It will be 10 times worse if you marry him.
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Sir Richard
Guest
Look at it the other way, you would be marrying someone with a huge baggage that he is not going to let go for a long time. Think if you want to live that way.