What to do with this relationship????, too many differences: age, culture,

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education, goals... what would you? I am 34 and she is 22, I am hispanic with strong "conservative" roots (that I have worked hard on changing), she is white, I am a Project Manager, she is a student and a single mom, I am divorced and two kids.
Me and her have come a long way, our relationship started as a fling and turned out ot be an almost 3 yr relationship, but we have struggle with our differences way too much. She is still into parting and just picked up school again. She doesnt like to go out to bars and clubs with me any more, although she shows she loves me when we are together in a more staying-in way. She doesnt like me to hang out with her friends (lots of male friends). We have broken up a couple of times, last time we were apart for almost 1 1/2 months, we've always had the best sex, but she loves to make out with girls. She is just a party girl, and I am more in the laid back side, need stability to function correctly (which is something I dont have every weekend she goes out), She does not receive child support, her ex is a dead beat dad. I pay for my child support and help her out with money every week, got her a brand new bb curve and i was paying for it until today. We lived together previously but after we broke up I got my own place and then she tried to get back with me. I wanted to give us a new place to move in and create new goals in life and provide her daughter college education and stuff, but she doesnt seem too excited about that.
I am not happy with the way things are going and I am thinking very seriously in ending this relationship today.
Please, if you guys could throw in some different perspectives that i might not be able to see, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time.
 
It sounds like you two are in very different places in your life. She has a daughter and needs to grow up, but if she's not willing to, there's no point in you getting hurt over and over while trying to make it work. Give her the choice: be with you, and only you....or end it for good. If she's got any sense at all, the choice won't be hard. You've been amazingly generous to her and if she can't see that, then she's not really worth it, in my opinion. I just feel sorry for her daughter.
 
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