daisymae47
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Ok so let me give you a little background, my huband and I have been married for a year and a half, the night of our wedding I got pregnant (it was planned) We now have a beautiful 9 month old son. I had a rough pregnancy (lets face it I suck at being pregnant, I was sick all 9 months and extremely hormonal) I gained 25 lbs while being pregnant (I am already overweight so thank God for all day sickness) anyway I lost all the weight plus 6 more lbs within 3 weeks of having him (thank God for breastfeeding) but like any female my body isnt the same. About 5 months after giving birth I was diagnosed with post partum depression ( I thought that would NEVER happen to me) I was put on medication and feel better now, but my husband has recently told me that he doesnt find me attractive anymore, in fact he said he is "disgusted" by me (his exact words) I dont think that I am an unattractive person (could I lose some weight-of course most women would say yes) let me also point out that my husband is a stay at home dad and I work 60 hours a week as a law enforcement officer (so when I am at home I will admit I dont always put on makeup and do my hair-I feel exhausted from working and then being a mom so on my days off I try to relax) My husband is a GREAT father, but I dont know what he expects from me? He married me (when I technically weighed more,even though having our son kind of messed up my body) and now he tells me he THOUGHT I would change!! I feel incredibly hurt and alone, I mean who wants to tell people their husband doesnt fine them attractive anymore? Its embarrassing! If anybody out there has any advice or just some words of encouragement it would be greatly appreciated. ( I dont want our marriage to end, especially after having our baby and definitely not because he doesnt find me attractive anymore!) He tells me he only says it because he wants me to be with him for a long time (and I appreciate that, but it still hurts!) Help!