what to do about lazy brother in law?

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Well ok here's how the drama starts,I lived in Or with my abusive parents, my fiance which was here in Pa took a plan flight to come and get me,with his single mother permission for me to live there. I just turned 18 when i moved here,which was on Oct 24. Well to make the huge story short, We pay his mother $400 a month and do everything around the house, now i just found out in april that i'm pregnant,the baby is due nov 29. Now after we found that out,my fiance's brother decied to move back in, and pay nothing,have no job,get money from his mother who won't even help us out,bring grils home every now and then,make the phone bill outrageous,he sleeps all day,share's the bathroom with us and everytime he goes to the bathroom he doesn't flush,then he complains if something good happens to one of us. Look i understand this is my fiance's mother's place, but it is wrong of her to let him do this. We want ot move but can't b/c of the money. what is your advice about all of this?
All we are asking for is to be treat =. It's just not right making us pay and him living here for free and doing whatever the hell he wants.
 
Its your mothers house. She is the one that makes the rules. Basically, I would do what you can to get out, you do not want to raise a baby under that roof. I know in Ohio they have housing for low income people and women with child has priority. I would guess you should have the same, check it out. You just left an abusive home, don't let people walk on you again. Its time to get own place, some how. Good luck you sound like a great person, who will be a good mom. The baby should come first in your decision.

I just remembered I think it is called HUD. But, they have appartments under Metro Housing. Hope this helps.
 
It's ironic that your name is "Live Ur Life", which is exactly what I think you should do. Just do what you need to do, and don't worry about everyone else around you. Sure, it's not fair that she treats you differently than your BIL, but guess what, sister -- LIFE is not fair, and you'll waste a lot of your life if you just sit around and wish it was. So just do what you need to do to get back on your feet and get your own place, and don't worry about what your BIL does or doesn't do.
 
When you make adult decisions, you have to face adult consequences. The fact that she is letting you live there is nice of her. It is her house and if she wants to let her dead beat son live there, she can. You should have made a wiser choice in getting your education a job and using birth control instead of complaining about how unfair life is. Grow up you are going to be a mom!
 
unfortunatley hes in his mothers house....and mothers tend to help thier children no matter how freeloading they can be. I can understand that its frustrating, he probably eats the food you buy too. I would seriously invest in a mini fridge to put in your room....so he cant do that (after a couple months, i know from experience that it gets expensive having a roomate eat all your food) and flat out refuse to do any of his cleaning. have your own dishes in your room...and use them, and wash them yourselves and put them back in your room. Dont do ANYTHING for him. if he asks "oh could you wash this" and you say no and hes like well youre washing clothes anyways, tell him to go buy a box of detergent, and give you 25 bucks and youll wash for him all week. This guy needs to learn responsiblity...its not your house so you cant really say anything but no one says you have to make it easy! Also, its probably best if you got your own phone line in your room...its not that expensive and that way, your mans mom cant say well we all use the same phone...cuz thats not true, youd have your own extension. I had a roomate living with me and my husband (when we werent married) and god, this guy would eat everything...he would wait until i had put a load of laundry on and then go throw his disgusting work clothes (that were dark) in with my whites...peed all over the toilet seat constantly...used my hair and bath products. It sucks, cuz it wasnt my house and i couldnt say anything...but i definatley made it difficult for him to be gross. i just put all his dishes, beer bottles, cigarette butts, dirty socks in his room and shut the door. your NOT this guys maid, so dont let anyone treat you like it! good luck...hope things work out better soon.
 
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