what to do about dinner before the dance?

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My son is 15 and a Sophomore in high school, he has asked a young lady, a Freshman who is 14 to the homecoming dance. This is a date dane and is semi-formal.

I suggested that he consider hosting a dinner party for 3 or 4 couples before the dance. His Grandma (my mom) lives very near the high school and has a nice table and all the necessary dishes. I have spoken to her and she is willing to let him and his friends invade her home.

At first my son felt this was a good idea, but my husband thinks it is crazy and that our son's date and friends will think it incredibly uncool. My husband has suggested that it would be better to take her to dinner at Red Robin or Wingers and not put her through having to meet family.

My first response was that I had met her before a couple of years ago and I was going to want to get some pictures before the dance so meeting would be inevitable. Plus at 15 and 14 someone will have to drive them to the restaurant, to the dance and home again.

My husband says I am overstepping my mommy bounds and am setting my son up for a terrible embarrassment. I think it is more embarrassing to invite a girl out for a restaurant dinner when he cant afford to take her to a nice one with real silverware.

what are your thoughts? Do you have a better suggestion that we havent thought of?
Sophie - He isn't sure what he wants as he is 15 and this is his first date.
 
Well, when I was in High School, we would eat a little before the dance, and after the dance, going to a cute burger place was the "thing to do." The burger joint was really popular with all the kids in school and you ended up seeing other friends from school. and because it was so informal, that was what was so fun about it. Showing up at a semi-old fashioned burger joint in evening gowns.

I don't think it's a good idea to have your mom host a dinner party... the girls are spending the day getting ready, having dinner before-hand will put more stress on them. Less time to get ready, and will have to do touch-ups...and it just might be awkward or uncomfortable...
I think your husbands right. I think it's too much.

But when I was their age, it was a tradition to go back to my house (with my date and friends) and have "breakfast." It was a tradition my mom had when she was in high school, and she thought it was neat to pass it on. So since they can't drive, that might be a good option?

And about the pictures-- take him to his dates house, take pictures, let her parents take pictures, and arrange with her parents (before-hand) who will be driving, and how everyone's getting home.
 
i'm 15. i'm going to homecoming this weekend with a date and friends.. we are all planning to go out to eat in our town which isn't very big so we don't really even have chain restraunts with 30 minutes of here. so we are going to a family opperated place.. i personally am glad i dont have to eat at his house. it would be way funner just to go out. why dont you just take him to pick her up at her house, let her parents take pictures, then take them back to your house take pictures there then take them to eat pick them up and then go to the dance.. it should be fine kids arent that picky..
 
i'm 15. i'm going to homecoming this weekend with a date and friends.. we are all planning to go out to eat in our town which isn't very big so we don't really even have chain restraunts with 30 minutes of here. so we are going to a family opperated place.. i personally am glad i dont have to eat at his house. it would be way funner just to go out. why dont you just take him to pick her up at her house, let her parents take pictures, then take them back to your house take pictures there then take them to eat pick them up and then go to the dance.. it should be fine kids arent that picky..
 
i'm 15 and honestly, i would not want my mother to have me do EITHER if i wasn't dating the other person. there's alot of relationships with kids older then that dating, and theydon'tt even have dinner at some fancy place or a restaurant before. This isn't like prom trust me. Also what alot of kids find cool to do, for example i have a large group of friends that are always together 25+, one parent will volunteere to have the group hangout and have pizza or pasta or something a few hours before and get a few parents to drive all the kids to the dance, this is extremely fun because its not putting pressure on the kids who have dates to the dance like they should be dating or something. It's more relaxed and up to date. hope i helped, and yes there will be plenty of time for picture taking. If you don't want to have alot of kids either, have as many as you please but instead of hauling them to dinner then the dance just have them hang out before, which will also leave time for whatever you may want. but what you should do FOR SURE is present these options to your son, and see how he feels about all of them.
 
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