What the fucking hell is wrong with some parents???

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aschaal03

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Thats bullshit. I had my son at 17, my daughter at 18 and my youngest when I was 22. Age is not an excuse for ignorance. Children all over the world are born to parents aged 14, that is a normal marry-ing age in many cultures.

Now, i grew up in the country too....we had wide range to roam, but you can bet that if mom hollared and we did not hollar back, she would come hunt us down. And you never wanted THAT to happen. I do not try to smother my kids, but I need to know where they are at. That is about the only rule. They roam the woods above our house all the time, they go to the arcade bythemselves and the library, but they have to let me know where they are going. That is just parenting IMO.
 
Yeah, DG, I think you're the exception, not the rule atleast in the U.S. We can't expect 14 yr-olds in the states and other more advanced, metropolitan societies to act like those in other countries where it is required and needed that a teenager take on responsibilities of an adult. Face it, if you wouldn't trust a license or voting rights with your average 14 yr-old, why should expect that same kid to be a responsible parent.

Kudos to you for having your priorities straight at a young age, DG. :thumbsup:

Edit: I am not by any means excusing crap priorities and negligent behavior with this. Just stating the tendencies to act like children when people have kids too young.
 
My parents didn't suck before, but now that I'm pulling in a near 4.0 in college and working my ass off, it seems as though they have nothing but complaints for me. Where were you six years ago when I was hanging out with potheads. Get off my back.
 
I noticed the so far most if not all the people here that complained about dg's mothering techniques of communicating with her kids every hour while they are out is too much are people that don't have kids of their own. I will say that these days you want them to do shit like that because their plans can easily change from minute to minute when they are with their friends. Especially since the older they get and the more independence they crave. If you give a kid an inch, a lot will take a mile!

I don't have any children but I honestly think that getting in touch with them every hour or at least multiple times while they are out is quite reasonable. My mother never did that to me but I was a hermit and I was only in one of two places, my room or my best friend's house whose mother was my mother's best friend too. My mother never had to call. However if I was to go anywhere I had to at least tell my friend's mother who'd then call my mother to let her know where I was. This was in the city too. I had some incidents where I was in danger. I wished my mother would have called more often.

bottom line, when you have kids, you will be worried sick what could happen to them. The world is different these days. There are a lot of safe neighborhoods but even those get their crimes. You'd be devastated if it was your kid that the crime happened too when all you might have had to do was call or make them call you more often.
 
While I know that most young parents tend to be absent in their children's lives I do know quite a few people who are great parents to their children. In fact every person I know who had a baby in high school has turned out to be a great parent and finished school, my sister-in-law included.

I also know how that kid feels. It hurts to know a parent doesn't care about you. My mom was that way but I am lucky enough to have a great father to make up for her. I hope things get better and I suggest you talk to the parents. I doubt anything will come of it, but you never know.
 
I think you're right about DG, but still kids older than me are fucking on a regular basis and think they are being smart, well I think people should stop fucking all the time(just kids) until they have a plan just in case they do have a kid. I mean what the hell kids don't have lives or they do and that is usually at their childs expense but these people don't usually get a great education, and also they have to work at minimum wage jobs, work all day just to feed their kids how are they supposed to take care of them. Most teen mothers I know don't take care of their child not because they don't care because they dropped out of school work all day and have no one to take care of their child. I know some one who had a kid at 14 the father was 21 and he got arrested for rape of some one else so how can these people be expected to be perfect parents when they are the only parent/gaurdian in the house work all day and their parents won't even look at them anymore like they are like fucking diesiesed we can't criticize these people for not being mother of the year.
 
I never knew why my mom was so big on me being home at the right time, and I would always get in trouble when I never checked in. I understand now that my mom was worried that I would be kidnapped or something and she has risen me in the way that if or when I have children I will be just as cautious about them.

It's a good feeling to know that I have been taught early on to call my mom whenever Im going somewhere. I agree with you 100% DG, its really a bad thought to think about, and I admire your care for your child's friend.​
 
Hell yes man, you're completely right Teach your kids about the danger of walking home alone or doing certain drugs, that is the key teach your kids when they are young it will probably work best at any rate.
 
Exactly...

Speaking of teaching kids not to do drugs, I have always been very open on educating my kids as to what drugs are and how they effect the body.....

Funniest shit...today we were watch White Girls, if you have seen the movie there is a part where a guy tries to give a "girl" X and "she" switches the glass on him, well Latrell (the guy) wakes up in bed with another guy....

The moral I gave my kids.... DON"T DO DRUGS!

LOL

PS Im definetly not mother of the year, I know I have made and probably will make mistakes as a parent, but I keep trying, I am always honest with my kids and let them talk to me....that is the most important part to being a parent.
 
Well, you don't have to be mother of the year you just have to be a nice compasionate understanding parent which it seems like you are. I say the only way we can educate our kids is when they are young, D.A.R.E. is unbelieveable crap which isn't doing a damn thing just like that character counts crap, if we don't educate kids when they are young and impressionable, we may never get through to them.
 
I agree, my mum was pretty hard on me up until I was 13 or 14, then she gave me a little bit of slack, I screwed up so she reigned me in again. A little later she tried again, gave me the responsibility to call her, which I did, so gradually she gave me a little bit more freedom, and more and more, until she'd let me go to the pub at 16, becaude she knew I was capable of behaving responsibly and not acting like a moron (unlike most of the kids my age who still had to sneak out to the park/arcades/outside McDonald's to drink). I never really rebelled because I was always taught that I was responsible for my own actions, and if I got arrested or anything, it was my fault, no one else's. Left me pretty level-headed. I think our family is one of the most stable "broken homes" imaginable!

EDIT: Shit, just read through my post again and it sounds well boastful and completely off-topic...oh well :D

Love you mum!!
 
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