What the fuck is wrong with me?

[randomtoad]

I seem to get extremely sad when things work out for people in a relationship. The even weirder thing is that it hits hardest when it's not even real people, as in characters in a book or movie/cartoon/film. And it lasts a long time, like hours or days. I can't really explain it, but its just like a "god dammit, shit, bottom of the hole" type of feeling.

Anyone got any insight?

 

[future futbol player]

Honestly, it will pass. You just made the first step. :thumbsup:

 

[♥ғℓυғғιє♥]

Ignore this comment, please. I wrote in at 3AM and am not thinking clearly. My apologies for mucking up your thread. Hope you overcome your problem!:happysad:

 

[MightyHyphy]

Perhaps you don't like seeing people happy on relationships because you want one real bad but you can't have it? I don't know... are you on a relationship or do you like someone that doesn't like you?

Maybe you should try to change your ideas, get out of town for a bit, a week end with friends might help.

 

[Peaceandlove9092]

Could be a couple of things.
Are you in a relationship that isn't working out for you? Want a relationship, but you can't seem to grasp onto one that makes you feel happy?

Either of those are possibilities especially if you notice yourself to be somewhat of a jealous person. Don't take that personally I can be too at times.
Either way go out have fun with people and try to make things work out in your favor. Maybe in turn you'll meet someone that you can uphold a relationship with and in turn that should make those feelings die out eventually.

 

[RosaInCali4nia]

Yeah, the second theory fits well. I dunno, it's just like this weird, literal, broken heart thing.

 

[Harris T]

Without tons of details and personal information, I'm going to say that this is some sort of bastardized transference from a previous relationship that went off the wire, and which you haven't made yourself okay with as of yet. This is a feeling most common in recently divorced men, and one of the reasons that indirectly lead to guys jumping right back into relationships soon after the divorce is finalized.

That's just my guess, and without specifics, it's just that: a guess.

 

[Xx Evelyne xX]

No divorce, but fairly close. And fixits guys?

 

[studentRN]

I should have clarified that it's most common in recently divorced men, but not exclusive to them. Any time a relationship into which you've become heavily emotionally invested ends, this feeling is likely to pop up.

As for a fix it, it's really up to you. Your brain is a bit like a grassy field. Paths that are regularly used are beaten down and easily traversed. In order to teach yourself to think differently, you have to do so constantly and consistently until the new path is beaten down, and the old path is overgrown.

Analogies aside, it's time for you to take some "you time" until you're genuinely okay with yourself, and the relationship statuses of those around you won't matter in the least. It's not a recent thing, actually, but lately I'm noticing more and more that people validate themselves based on their relationship statuses as opposed to their inherent values and virtues.

In a nutshell it boils down to how you feel about yourself.

 

[zachpellicone]

And just look at 3dRadio's sig! You can't argue with that nigga

 

[bo_dontno]

Nuff said.

 

[Staceylis]

Nice, but I live in Nampa Idaho, the hookers don't look even close to that good.

 

[LyricDreamer95 ! :D]

Beauty, my friend, is just a light switch away...

 

[FairyWind]

Though it's cliche, I find a paper bag works just as well.

 

[lovemyboys!!]

Because plastic bags may cause more problems than they solve.