My girlfriend and I love each other and have had a great relationship and we have trusted each other very much. However recently she has missed having friend guys and have wanted to hang out with a friend she has who recently got played by his gf. I from my part have started talking to a friend I have had for over 3 years but quit talking to her before to avoid making my girlfriend feel bad because I noticed it made her a bit jealous.
Now things are like this; My gf have told me about bringing this guy to her room. It's something thatreally bugs me and at first she didn't understand my reason to be upset about it, however, when I asked her to put in my position if I invited my friend girl to come over to my home, how she would feel. She totally realized and even said she was being retarded asking me to be okay about bringing her friend to her room. She aplogized and I felt much better. However, now she said about going to the movies with him. It's something that still bugs me even though I trust her and when I asked her to imagine me and my friend going to the movies she admitted it would totally bug her as well. We both are agree on one point, even though we trust we wont cheat on each other, it still bug us the idea of going out with friends of the opposite sex, specically his friend and my friend. We even laughed about it when talking on the phone.
We are now like not taking a step forward about going out with each other's friend out. However, she seems a bit determined to do it because she said she just wants to hang out with him although it would bug her if I go out with my friend girl.
I have always liked that she doesn't do the things because of how it would make me feel, being totally conprehensive and thoughtful, instead of me asking her not to and same from my part. At this moment I haven't asked her to not go with her friend to the movies and I wont do it at all. I'd hate being an oppresive or controlling bf and keep her from doing things she wants to do. I want to always be flexible. I think that's the best way to keep her feeling good about being with me. I want to make her happy and I think being okay about she going to the movies with her friend would make her happy. However I can't help getting bugged by it, just as she would too.
What should we do? should we just go out with each other friends and just deal with it to accept and get used to the idea?
Should we not do it for the good of the relationship and just avoid something which i consider possible to avoid?
or should I just not ever go out with my friend girl because it would bug her but accept the part about she going with his friend for the good of the relationship?
I'm really confused. any opinion or advice?
Now things are like this; My gf have told me about bringing this guy to her room. It's something thatreally bugs me and at first she didn't understand my reason to be upset about it, however, when I asked her to put in my position if I invited my friend girl to come over to my home, how she would feel. She totally realized and even said she was being retarded asking me to be okay about bringing her friend to her room. She aplogized and I felt much better. However, now she said about going to the movies with him. It's something that still bugs me even though I trust her and when I asked her to imagine me and my friend going to the movies she admitted it would totally bug her as well. We both are agree on one point, even though we trust we wont cheat on each other, it still bug us the idea of going out with friends of the opposite sex, specically his friend and my friend. We even laughed about it when talking on the phone.
We are now like not taking a step forward about going out with each other's friend out. However, she seems a bit determined to do it because she said she just wants to hang out with him although it would bug her if I go out with my friend girl.
I have always liked that she doesn't do the things because of how it would make me feel, being totally conprehensive and thoughtful, instead of me asking her not to and same from my part. At this moment I haven't asked her to not go with her friend to the movies and I wont do it at all. I'd hate being an oppresive or controlling bf and keep her from doing things she wants to do. I want to always be flexible. I think that's the best way to keep her feeling good about being with me. I want to make her happy and I think being okay about she going to the movies with her friend would make her happy. However I can't help getting bugged by it, just as she would too.
What should we do? should we just go out with each other friends and just deal with it to accept and get used to the idea?
Should we not do it for the good of the relationship and just avoid something which i consider possible to avoid?
or should I just not ever go out with my friend girl because it would bug her but accept the part about she going with his friend for the good of the relationship?
I'm really confused. any opinion or advice?