What should the parents of the bride/groom do if the bride and groom are paying?

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I'm getting married in September and I have no idea what my parents and my fiancees parents should do at the wedding. We are paying for the wedding, but we are having it at my dad and stepmom's house. my fiancee's mom asked me the other day what I wanted her to do but I honestly have no idea.
 
if the pair of you have nothing for them to help you out with (physically or financially) then you can tell them you have everything under control and thank them for their thoughtfulness.
 
They don't really have to do anything, unless you let them do something since it's also important to them too...

We're paying for our own too, but our parents have helped a lot, and I didn't fight them because it's also an important day, and they help because they care ^_~
 
they dont have to do anything really.....

what you could do though is just include them in some of the planning... perhaps get your future mother in law involved in choosing your dress, your shoes.... the rehearsal dinner?

Just anything that you may require help for or want another opinion, keep them feeling included and up to date with your plans, cos really thats all you can do!!
 
They are guests. They just need to show-up, look pretty/handsome, and give speeches. If you want to take your mom and FML to watch you try on your gown that's great bonding time. If you want to practice dancing with your father, that's great too. Your FH can also practice dancing with his mom. I let my parents pay for our cake because they insisted on paying for something. If you want you mom or FMIL to help you with anything on your long To Do list, you can assign them a few things that are not too difficult. They just want to be helpful because they know planning a wedding is very time-consuming. You're fortunate to get all the help you can.
 
They don't really have to do anything. Hopefully they are there for any concerns or questions you have and make sure to include the moms in dress shopping and cake tasting b/c I think they would enjoy that.
 
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