You like ranting do you, well you came to the right place then. I have not done "cyber" but I am sure that it would be cheating if you are in a relationship. If you are in a relationship, why are you looking for others on line? Your physical "v" is safe if you are just "cybering", but your mental "v" will be gone forever. Which is more important, or are they both important? How would you feel if you found out that your boyfriend was having cyber sex with different girls all of the time? Maybe you should have your boyfriend with you when you "cyber" and have a "cyber 3sum" or moresum. Or try having "cyber" with your boyfriend. That would help you keep your physical "v" intact and you would be able to enjoy sex with your boyfriend at the same time. Am I ranting enough for you? OK, then I think that cheating is mostly in the mind, fantasy is not cheating, but having phone or cyber sex is, in my opinion at least. I have never met my girlfriend, we have been having a relationship for a year and a half by mail, snail mail, and we have sex all of the time, yet we have never been in the same room or even the same town, at the same time. I know that she has sex with other people, but that does not bother me. All that I am worried about is how she feels about me, not how she feels about other people, that is on her. OK, I am done ranting for now.