What is your opinion?

[cjh1221]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, he lives with me and my children. Things have been rough with the kids trying to adjust and lately no one in the home is happy, we are always yelling, punshing, and the kids argue alot. We are working on it, the kids are in counseling and we have really been trying to get things on the right track. My boyfried has never been anything but 100% devoted to me and tells me he loves me more than he has loved anyone before. He has been telling me off and on for a while now that while we are fine as a couple, he is having a hard time being happy here with the problems with the kids and that he is going to move out. He says he still loves me and the kids, none of that has changed, but he is afraid that if he doesn't it is only going to get worse until it cannot be salvaged. I see his point, and I want to believe him that this is really the case, but it scares me that maybe he is just saying that because he does not want to hurt me, and that pulling away slowly will be easier for me. I have asked him if that is the case, and he has said no, but that is what it sorta feels like. He texts me less and less, and he seems to spend less time here than he used to, even though he hasn't even moved out yet. He says he is focused on the same end result as he was before, for us to be a happy family, but I fear it's not true. He left for an appointment today, gave me a kiss like he usually does, but he said "OK, see you later." instead of "I love you" like he always does. Am I reading too much into it or is he really pulling away? He describes it this way, "I am still on the highway, with the same destination. My car is starting to overheat and instead of just driving it until it dies, I am pulling into the breakdown lane, giving the car some water, and then getting back on the road.". Maybe I'm just looking for reasurance that it will all be OK, but I don't know what to expect and it's killing me. Please just give me your advice, without being critical or judgemental, or trying to spare my feelings if my fears are true. Please also keep in mind that we are not teenagers and just figuring out the way the world works, we are both in our mid 30's.