What is the gay lifestyle and why do people believe being gay is an 'action' one takes?

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I'm just curious as to what the gay lifestyle is. As a gay man I guess I missed out. My lifestyle is Work/Sleep/Tv/ Exercise/ REading etc. I often hear about the homosexual lifestyle and I never quite wondered why it is. Also, why do many people think homosexuality is an 'action' one takes and not a TRAIT. Heterosexuality is a trait and many straight people are still straight even if they're celibate or Non sexually active. Why do many people think of homsexuality as a 'behavior'? I've always known I was gay and have very little sexual experience even at the age of 32. It's almost as though some people ASSume all gay people are sex addicts. Why the sterotype?
Hank; sterotypes himself by being a heterosexual. it's nothing but behavior.
Lou: There is NO WAy for a gay person to turn straight. We've all tried it and been through it. It made me worse for wear rather than better. You can't possibly know unless you are gay. GAY PEOPLE are the experts NOT you.
LOU: the website's definition of pathology is ALSO in grave error. Something that is out of the norm is NOT necessarily a 'pathology'. Is being left handed a pathology simply because it's out of the norm? that's silly. Homosexuality is not a mental disorder. many gay people have mental disorders and homosexuality isn't one of them i guarantee that.
LOU: I check out the link you copied. It's all BS propoganda with very litlle scientific research AND already disproven statements. Homosexuaity IS and CAN be about love just as much as heterosexuality. All one has to do is find committed loving couples and ask them and get to know them. Also, the whole side is based on religious assumptions. (even though it claims that it is not, it's just a cover up). 'natural law' is a religious argument against homosexuality.
 
Like every other Gay you are looking for attention hence your question.
You want to be "recognized" for your gayness but not hindered for it you suffer from a mental disorder as do all MO's
 
There is no such thing as the "gay lifestyle." It was created by the fears of the religious right. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. Everyone is human, just trying to make the most of their life and be happy. We are all the same underneath it all. I cannot stand all the gay stereotypes. They are damaging to the gay rights movement. If we would apply harsh stereotypes to all those people who reject homosexuality, they wouldn't like it at all.
 
None of us apparently got the memo. I have never met another gay person who knew what the gay lifestyle was, nor the gay agenda. Neither one seems possible, of course, since we are all individuals, and live very different lives. Is there one single straight lifestyle? Is there a straight agenda? I doubt it.

I knew I was gay when I was 4, and that was years before I even knew what sex was. I was gay before I ever had sex, and I will be gay when I'm an old man in a nursing home who can't even remember what sex was. As for now, I am in a monogamous relationship, of ten years, and sex is not a major part of it. We're not young, one of us is disabled, and sex isn't that important anymore. But love is, and love is what keeps us together. It's also what brought us together in the first place.

Edit: What stupid answers you got! A bunch of self-proclaimed experts. And for the genius who said "change is possible," no it's not. The so-called ex-gay ministries have been exposed. They're frauds, and the founders of the most famous one admit it. I've seen what happens on the "other side" of those... afterwards: depression, self-loathing, loss of faith, and all too often, suicide.

Edit for Lou: Do you believe everything you see on TV? I could introduce you to a man who went on TV twice claiming to be ex-gay. These "changes" were three years apart, and he had gone through two different ex-gay groups. After the first one, he married a woman. Of course, since he had only deluded himself, he loathed having sex with her, and they wound up divorced. But he tried again three years later, again telling the world he was now straight. And again, he had only been deluded. I could introduce you... except he died 15 years ago... he died lonely, angry, depressed, hating himself and hating God, surrounded by people who couldn't love or accept him as he was.... people like you, it seems.
Try this link:
http://www.beyondexgay.com/article/apology

Edit: Yeah, you got all the answers, Lou... you wrote a book filled with your own ignorance and propaganda. But anyone who is gay knows it's all B.S. (As well as pretty much anyone with any logic or intelligence. Two minutes on your website, and I saw the circular logic, the illogic, and the distortions.)
I spent over twenty years researching before I published my book:
http://www.lulu.com/content/596804

It's all based on research... not my own opinions.

And my sexuality is exactly what nature intended. Sorry you weren't consulted ahead of time, but you are 51 years too late to do anything about it. So worry about your own sexuality, and leave other people's alone. Oh, and as for happy, I'm happier than most of the people I know. And I have been for many years, thank you.

You admit it exists throughout nature, but you say it's wrong. In nature, it prevents overpopulation, and same-sex pairs adopt and raise orphaned young. It helps the species survive. Seems like something that works very well to me. Just because it doesn't meet with your approval doesn't make it wrong... and just because it isn't the majority doesn't make it wrong either. By your (il)logic, being left-handed is wrong, because it isn't the norm.

I can only assume you never took a logic class in college... you would have flunked for sure.

I've had enough of your idiocy, Lou.
"Go forth from the presence of a foolish man when thou perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge." (Proverbs)
I'm outta here. Your ignorance and self-righteousness are a nauseating combination.
 
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