I can't tell you what it would be like in the Air Force firsthand other than from my cousing. I am dual military Army. My wife and I are both active duty soldiers, and my cousin and her husband are active duty Air Force.
Overall, it hasn't been that bad of an experience. My wife and I have been stationed at the same duty station, and are both part of the same brigade so we get to deploy. I do know first hand that the dual military programs that most of the branches have does work. Right before we got back from Iraq recently, her branch manager tried contacting her through email to make sure that she wanted to stay at our current duty station. When we redeploy, that is when a lot of people will come down on orders to go to a different unit. Well, her branch wanted to change her orders up, but saw the flag that was raised because she was married to another active duty soldier. It also had a flag on there saying that I had reenlisted in Iraq, so they were trying to get in touch with her to find out if I had chosen another duty station instead of staying at the one we were at. They were going to station her wherever I was going to be going. On top of that, they never were able to get a hold of her, so they actually tracked me down and asked me.
It is pretty good living though. If you don't have any kids or anything together, then if you both deploy you don't have to pay rent but you are still going to get the housing allowances and all that, so its more to be able to put back and save. Or, if you want to, you can have things worked out if youd o have children to where only one of you deploy at a time. That way there is always one parent that is at home with the children.
You are in the Air Force so things will work differently. From what I understand from my cousin, is that the Air Force is pretty much about the servicemembers first, and then mission comes second, which is totally opposite when it comes to the Army. My cousin and her husband are loving the dual military life and it was really easy for them to get stationed at the same place. If they deploy overseas, they are going to get to go together and actually live together. That is another plus. If you deploy to the same place at the same times as your spouse, then you are authorized to room together.
Other than all that, both of you will be getting military health care and the best benefit of all, which is getting to walk around proudly saying that you AND your husband are serving our great country together.
Good luck
