What is considered cheating in the army?

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My soon to be ex-husband and I are having our differences about our divorce. I'm deployed and he won't send me the papers nor answer my phone calls about them or my furniture. He recently paid his cell phone bill with my bank account information without my permission. He supposedly has a message that I sent to another man on facebook, telling him that I missed him, and he missed me. Not really going into detail. I told him I cheated on him. Now he has another female living with him in his house. I was just wondering, could we both get in trouble or could he use the e-mail against me since I don't have solid proof that he is living with another female. Also, he has sent me threatening text messages threatening my life as soon as I get back from deployment, can I use these when I get back if I am in fear?
 
The military might have some sort of mediation services available for you. Also, get advice from family and a lawyer. Again, the military might be able to help with the legal as well.

Basically, get your ducks in a row and do your homework. The furniture and money is small stuff compared to your safety. Take care and stay safe, even if you lose your sofa and a few bucks,
 
he is still ur husnabd and im sure you will come to each other again...well if ur sacred fromt he messegs then tell soem one about them before he does soemthing to u . and plus not to be rude u should of not chaed in the first place
 
There's two types of cheating, physical and verbal(emotional). Both are considered cheating legally and both are looked at in different ways in the military. But if your spouse is also cheating then if he tries to use it against you he'll be throwing himself under the bus along with you. Just make sure you keep every txt and keep everything information wise and the more paper trails you have against him the better. He can use messages on public community networks such as facebook or myspace as long as he knows the name of the person the messages are sent to if he doesn't know it won't be looked at. Since he has a woman living with him, make sure you have proof. Get a friend or family member to get pictures of her going to and from his place. Make sure they don't trespass onto his property tho because they need either a PI license to do so or Digital Forensic License to take pictures on other other people's property without their knowing or consent.
 
If you did in fact cheat on him, you can be court martialed for adultery under the UCMJ. Why in the world you would cheat if you are in an organization that actually will prosecute adultery?
 
He may be all talk since you are so far away but keep them handy just in case. If he wasn't on your bank account, you may well be able to have him thrown in jail when you get back. When you ask if you both could get in trouble, I doubt it even if he also is in the service.
You need an attorney to represent your interests where he is living to keep him from taking advantage of you while you are away though. You might also contact your bank and have your money there put into a savings account with a new password until you return if you can do that online at your bank.
 
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