What is a military wife's lifestyle like?

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My boyfriend is stationed in TX in the AIT program. We've been talkin about marriage and how he wants me to move down there and get an apartment off-base.

What is it like to be a military wife? Are there support groups? What can I do to keep myself busy while he's (god forbid) deployed overseas or just away for trainings?

Any feedback would be great. Thanks!
 
It blows. My husband is home every night but when he goes to training it can last a month or two months or longer. Than on top of the deployments. If you have children plan on him not being there for birthdays and such too. And it all depends on where you get stationed with support groups. Where I live the base he is at is only 500 people or such. It is really hard to keep yourself busy when they are gone but you will manage.
I am a stay at home mother and I would not recommend it for anyone that is a military spouse. It is difficult and I feel crazy 99% of the time. Before we were married it was alot easier and alot less complicated. I go where he goes now expect the training and deployments and I really don't like it but I put up with it because we are married and I love him. I think you will have to learn what fits for you. The first year of marriage is the hardest for military couples. And the first deployment hurts like hell but you will get through it.
Good luck!
Enjoy every minute of it.
 
My little sister was married to a navy guy and she spent months and months alone with out him. You'd better get use to being alone and by yourself is all I have to say.
 
it is tough when your husband on deployments but there are a lot of support groups and you will make friends with other spouses of people in his unit, it isn't bad don't believe custer it does take some getting used to
 
My hubby is in the Army, and it definitely has it's ups and downs. I'm sad to read that so many wives bash this lifestyle so much. "it blows" is a really sad answer. What about how good it feels to know that your husband fights for the greater good?? Yes, it's very hard; yes it really hurts to be alone. I have a hard time with him leaving, especially now that we have a son, but I choose to embrace my lifestyle (I chose it) and focus on the fact that we have an excellent pay plan, our health insurance kicks ass, among many other things. When he's gone I get to take charge and make sure that things get done. Instead of sit around and mope (I'm a stay at home mom) I decided to get back in to crafting. I also decided to go back to school. There are specific support groups, but I created my own - family, friends, etc.....
The glass can either be half empty or half full....it's up to you!!!
 
I'd say it's great only if you don't have kids.

I'm married to a navy man, albeit only recently. He's of high enough rank that he doesn't deploy unless he wants to and can choose where/if he relocates.

Before meeting him, I was very independent and travel a lot on my own. Right now, he's contemplating going back on a ship because he hasn't been on one for awhile and misses it- and during that time, I plan on traveling myself! (lucky enough, nurses are in high demand around the world).

Once we have kids, he'll only have a couple years until his 20 is up and he can stay home and raise them, when I'll go off to work. Or vice versa, or part time each.

My point here is, I think it will work if you don't sit on the couch and stare at the clock and cry. If you get out and do something with your time, it'll fly by :)

It sucks being apart, but its more bearable.
 
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