What exactly is he trying to do? Is this a game?

J

Juicy Pineapple

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Okay, please don't judge me. The situation is that a guy me & my husband know (that we have to see a few times a week - not at work) has stared at me for three years. At first, I was disgusted, but as things got really bad at home, overtime, I began to enjoy the attention. Anyway, he has not made any moves but will say nice things about me in general, does things to try to impress me, likes to be near me, and studies my interactions w/my husband. Again, I did not like him at first, but I felt sort of taken by him and have been trying to get rid of this crush for awhile now. He talks about how his wife is so great and about his kids alot, but he still tries to gain my attention every time I make a strong attempt to ignore him, which is hard because we volunteer together. I already know that it is morally wrong to have a crush and do not want an affair. His wife hates me, and I'm beginning to hate myself for this too. I don't think he is looking for an affair since it's been so long, so WHY won't he stop these actions if he knows I'm trying to ignore / get over him. What is he trying to do??? Why doesn't he understand that flirting is not harmless???
Yes- I have to be around him. It's at church (which makes it even worse.)
 
Apparently he doesn't understand it. But you do. And since you're the one who does understand, ignore him completely. Be polite, but cold to him. Cold enough to make him realise that his **** don't impress you anymore.

If he doesn't get the picture with this, I would confront him. Tell him that you'd like him to stop that because it makes you feel uncomfortable and it's wrong. If he doesn't get that as well, as a final solution, talk to your husband and let him deal with him, he'll know how.
 
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