What ever happened to our sex life?

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OhNo

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Five months ago my husband and I welcomed our first child into the world. As some of you may know, you aren't supposed to have sex until six weeks after you have the baby or until you're not as sore anymore. A little over six weeks passed I was ready to have sex again, but for my husband it wasn't the same.

We haven't had sex in about three months. I've asked I don't know whats wrong; Our sex life used to be GREAT. I've asked him why he doesn't want sex and he says "Its nothing".

I know he's not cheating on me,he comes home everyday after work and he's just not the person who would do that. I know it's not that.

I know he's still interested. He tells me that im beautiful everyday and that I'm the best wife ever.

I try to set the mood right. I TRY to initiate it and he always says "Not now" or "Later sweetheart". When is later going to be? When the both of us are two seconds from being six feet under? You know, I have needs too. =/

Has this ever happened to you? Do any of you know what could be wrong?
 
My husband was the same way after our daughter was born - his 'fast' didn't last quite as long as yours seems to be, but it took him a while to get back 'in the mood.'
When I asked him about it, after the fact, he told me that he was having a hard time adjusting to being a father, that the reality of the situation hadn't quite hit him yet and that for a while, it just felt strange to even consider having sex with a baby in the house.
I don't know what your situation is exactly, but I'd suggest sitting him down, and making him talk about the real reasons behind his hesitance, because if its something wrong with him, or something you're doing, you can work together to fix it.
 
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