What does a man do when he no longer desires his wife due to the fact that...

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ladynobody

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My husband talked to me about my weight. He told me to reduce abit, how I looked sexy before and he miss my curvy shape.
I am on a mission to loose weight because I love him and I want him to be happy with me.
Talk to your wife and she also need to respect your wish.
 
...she's become fat and flabby? When she undressess, I am completely and totally turned off by this. I have seriously considered looking elsewhere for sex. I've dropped hints that being grossly overweight is unhealthy, but she refuses to do anything about it. What am I to think other than she doesn't care enough to shape up?
 
Well she's your life long partner good luck buddy ^.^ and if you divorce you going to have not only a fat wife, but also a fat ex wife taking your cash xD. I'm happy I'm still a kid and don't have to make these decisions.

Fine sorry I was just joking

*Edit* Dude don't treat a lady like that no matter what she looks like I've lost all respect on the people that have even cheated on their Gf It's just something you shouldn't do. I suggest really tell her what you think, that you are really concerned and that you really love her if this doesn't work I guess you could ask someone in her family they might tell you if something is wrong with her or you could ask her directly.
 
Well she's your life long partner good luck buddy ^.^ and if you divorce you going to have not only a fat wife, but also a fat ex wife taking your cash xD. I'm happy I'm still a kid and don't have to make these decisions.

Fine sorry I was just joking

*Edit* Dude don't treat a lady like that no matter what she looks like I've lost all respect on the people that have even cheated on their Gf It's just something you shouldn't do. I suggest really tell her what you think, that you are really concerned and that you really love her if this doesn't work I guess you could ask someone in her family they might tell you if something is wrong with her or you could ask her directly.
 
Instead of dropping hints about the health thing. Sit her down and talk to her. Explain that you are not finding her physically attractive.
don't cheat on her, that's wrong.


Or see if you can get her to go to the doctor, is there a chance that the weight gain is actually health related.

If you truly love her, you'll do everything in your power to help her without being unkind and insensitive.


EDIT: I think it's unfair to assume that this guy is a jerk. The bottom line is that sexual attraction is NECESSARY in any romantic relationship. It doesn't mean the love isn't there, just the desire. When my husband started over eating and put on a bunch of weight, I talked to him and straight out told him that the weight gain was starting to bother me. I didn't call him names, or degrade him, I just put everything out there.
 
Let her find someone who will love an appreciate her the way she is. She deserves that...
I'm pretty sure shes a good person, you should love her NO MATTER WHAT...if in fact you still truly love her at all.
 
Well, instead of dropping hints, sit down and have an honest conversation with her. You are no more than dirt if you do go elsewhere for sex. Explain to her that while you still love her and that she is beautiful, you are concerned about her health.

Maybe there are other issues going on. Maybe she feels that you don't love her anymore and that it won't matter what she looks like anymore. Make sure there are no emotional issues contributing to this.

Offer to start going to the gym with her. Offer to start hiking or something with her.

You have to look at yourself too though. Do you still look the same? I doubt it. Are you still the man she married? Probably not. You may have to make some changes in yourself in order to bring out the best in her. We married couples are essential to each other, not just emotionally, but physically and psychologically as well.
 
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