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Background: my BF and i (im a girl) are college age. been going out for almost 2 yrs. he told me that i girl he's in a class with sorta asked him out. she didn't specify it would be a date, but it seemed like that's what she meant. Her name is Jane. He kinda said 'uh, im busy this week' and she said to get back to her the next time they have class together. (so tomorrow). So BF and I are talking over IM today, and this is how the convo went:
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me: have you decided what to say to Jane?
my BF: bend over?
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now, him and i are pretty open and joke-y and stuff. we make your mom jokes, and 'thats what she said' and stuff kinda often. in fact, when he told me about Jane asking him out, i was saying that if he really wanted, he could give it a try. (we had talked about seeing other people, just for the experience and to be sure about each other since neither of us have had much other dating or sleeping with other ppl experience). he said he didnt want to, though, cuz he has me. tho in the past he's said that he wonders if he will regret not having had the experience of sleeping with anyone else, assuming we end up staying together. again, we're pretty open in terms of talking about this stuff.
but anyway, this comment/joke kind of struck me a little... cuz... i didnt even think of that as a possible response, but he apparently did... so he's thinking about her that way, as opposed to just not being interested because he's so happy with me.
with the comment/joke, like, i feel like maybe it crosses a line. on the other hand, if he's thinking it, i wouldnt want him not to say it, i guess. i'd rather know. anyway, i know i'm over analyizing my reaction. just, my immediate response was a little.. unnerved/hurt/something, and now im trying to figure it out. what do you make of the joke? does it mean anything about what he really wants or whatever?
@ Bent Over ... lol
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me: have you decided what to say to Jane?
my BF: bend over?
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now, him and i are pretty open and joke-y and stuff. we make your mom jokes, and 'thats what she said' and stuff kinda often. in fact, when he told me about Jane asking him out, i was saying that if he really wanted, he could give it a try. (we had talked about seeing other people, just for the experience and to be sure about each other since neither of us have had much other dating or sleeping with other ppl experience). he said he didnt want to, though, cuz he has me. tho in the past he's said that he wonders if he will regret not having had the experience of sleeping with anyone else, assuming we end up staying together. again, we're pretty open in terms of talking about this stuff.
but anyway, this comment/joke kind of struck me a little... cuz... i didnt even think of that as a possible response, but he apparently did... so he's thinking about her that way, as opposed to just not being interested because he's so happy with me.
with the comment/joke, like, i feel like maybe it crosses a line. on the other hand, if he's thinking it, i wouldnt want him not to say it, i guess. i'd rather know. anyway, i know i'm over analyizing my reaction. just, my immediate response was a little.. unnerved/hurt/something, and now im trying to figure it out. what do you make of the joke? does it mean anything about what he really wants or whatever?
@ Bent Over ... lol