What do you guys think? Mother/Daughter argument.?

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melissa

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I'm 17 years old. It's my very close friends birthday next week. She has gone to Melbourne to celebrate it with a friend whom she is not very close to. I was meant to go too, but my mother disallowed it. They're going for 2 weeks. I have asked my mother if it would be okay for me to go for two or three days when it's my friends birthday, so I can celebrate with her. She denied me this because she said flights were too expensive. My two other really good friends (who are male, so I guess are a worry?) offered to drive to melbourne with me, which would cost a fraction of the plane tickets. My mother is acting very negative on the whole thing. I think she's very attached to me, and has it in her mind that she cannot allow me to be put in danger, which is nice, but incredibly suffocating sometimes. I won't be in danger in melbourne with these friends. I also have family there which I would love to see. In a year I will be a legal adult, and she moved away from home to sydney when she was 17. I find my argument and reasons for going feasible, but she just gets really angry and irritated whenever I mention it. Has anyone got any ideas on how to bring her around, or at least get her to understand that I'm responsible? I know she's just worried about my safety, but my friends are very caring and would never put me in danger. I would really appreciate some help. Thanks!
 
Involve someone else in the discussion and bring it up. That's how I got my mom to lay off about me getting a tattoo when I was 18. Sometimes it takes another adult to make her see that she may be over reacting a little. I can understand her concern, you are close to grown, but you are not grown just yet and if something happens to you, shes responsible. But you are 17, not 12 and you should be a little more trustworthy as you are about to be an adult. Some parents dint realize holding on too tight can have a reverse affect.
 
Talk. I mean convince her to talk in a civilized manner. Keep your tone level and when she gets angry, just steer her to the right path and calm her down. Just ask her why not then tell her how you feel. Tell her this is a big deal for you. Tell her that sometimes you feel suffocated by her good intended love (Remember to phrase these things in the least offensive way possible). To be safe, better pay for the tickets on your own. You can earn the money so that she has one less argument. Don't worry, when people talk calmly, answers eventually arise. If these things still don't work, then it's best just to have it her way. Don't hold any grudges and understand your mother. She's about to lose you (legally at least). Bottom line, just talk until you two reach an agreement.


Hope this helps :D
 
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