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idiotzaint

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Okay, I apologize now if this one has been done before, but I need advice on this topic. Here's the situation:
I have a crush on a guy who is totally wrapped up in this girl that he almost had a date with. The problem is not that I have a crush on him because I know that it wouldn't work between us, but the problem is that I want to help him get over her. She's all wrong for him, and he knows it. He gets really depressed about the situation and has even mentioned suicidal thoughts several times. I have done my best to help him, but I'm not sure I'm really getting through to him. He says he needs to handle this by himself. Am I being too interfering? Should I let him deal with it himself since that's what he feels he needs to do? Or should I continue to "stick my nose in his business?" Part of the problem is that as much as I want to help him, I don't want to seem like I'm being pushy, nor do I want to cross the line. Give me your thoughts.
 
Judging by the fabulous advice of the previous posts, I thought I would give my highly valued opinion.

First off, if he is going to kill himself over some chick, let alone one that he hasn't even gone on a date with, he is super stupid and should go ahead and kill himself.

Secondly, it's his own problem that he cannot get over her, so I would just leave his ass to whine and moan for her. It'll kick him in the ass soon enough.

And thirdly, what are you doing this friday. :tongue: :thumbsup:

But overall, just forget about him and he will come crawling back to you once this chick has used and abused him. :thumbsup:
 
Wow, that's a lot to digest. Friday, I'm going to see Amytiville Horror with some friends. I heard it's supposed to be really scary, and I love scary. :cool:
I disagree with anyone killing themself. I'm pretty much a "tolerate everyone as long as they don't piss me off"
He was never with me, so he can't exactly come "crawling back to me." He's just a guy that I was interested in but am getting over because I know it wouldn't work even if he wasn't wrapped up in this other girl.
 
First off : Nice sig. Best movie ever.

Second : Guys hate it when two girls are interested in them, or they're interested in one girl and another girl likes them, they (I) can't stand when one or the girl who is interested suddenly becomes uninterested. I usually go for her when she's uninterested...
 
I agree with the movie part. As for the second, I'm sorry I can't exactly help the fact that I like him. He's never going to be interested in me, so I don't think I have to worry about him coming after me and me being uninterested. (I know that didn't exactly make sense, but I think it got the point across.)
 
Best bet: leave him be. Be his pal etc... but don't get into the shit with the other chick. If he wants to bring it up fine. It's not your mess, it's not your problem and it's out of your hands anyway.

You can't fix him an it's not even your responsibility to try. If he's talking about offing himself your responsiblity is to bring that to the attention of the people who ARE responsible and have the training to deal.

Be his friend. Don't be his codependant.
 
Well this guy seems to be a real nut job but I guess I kinda understand. Sometimes you just cant do anything Tiger, just let him figure this one out for himself, or allow himself he needs help and ask himself. Otherwise he'll rely on others to much and never be able to handle it if it keeps happening. Sorry for this Tiger, but in this situation I think you should step down.
 
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