what do you do when you ask your child a simple yes or no question and they

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tiaragotanewtiara!!

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just rant on? say you ask...

did you have a good day at school today?

and they answer..

no i didnt have a good day at school because yappity yapp yap yappity yap yap yap yap yap yap yap yappity
lol gypsy ur funny and a hypocrite haha

first you say
"just listen and nod and pretend to be interested in your child and get over it"

then you say
"i'm a mom, who actually cares about what my child has to say about their experiences."

i dont think u really care if you just nod and pretend to be interested :)

i never said i didnt care if my kid has possitive experiences or not


brittany - ummm sorry to say but that question is a yes or no question
"did you have a good day at school today?"
you're not asking them what did they do at school or what happened at school...
 
Your child wants you to know what is going on in their life. Just like you like to talk to your friends and family about whats going on in yours. What may be meaningless to you may actually mean something to your child. Just listen and if its random babble tune them out, but listen first they may have problems or may have something happen that was exciting!!! Your child have a right to have a voice and say.
 
As the others have stated. Just listen. I have often began to offer some advice to my daughter and then she would get defensive. So I pretty much learned that she just needed to get things off her chest and for me just to listen. And if she would stop and ask me an actual question then I would give her some advice or use an example of something similar that happened to me at her age. It does help keep me informed of what's going on in their lives and all 3 of my children always come and tell me things on a daily basis.

Add: There has been times where my kids come home and began to babble about things that I do not find interesting. As much of a hypocrite as it may sound....I may tune some of it out and except it for what it is. They are just learning how to cope and deal with other children. But I still let them go because it does seem to make them feel better to have someone listen to them. But my mommy ears still pick up on things I need to be concerned about.

But I think why everyone is answering your question the way they are is because asking if your child had a good day is actually an open ended question that isn't exactly a yes or no question. For example, I asked my son if he put the clothes in the dryer. Instead of just saying no he got defensive and began to rant about how he was walking down there and the dog almost tripped him so it made him mad so he came back upstairs to watch tv. Instead of just saying no he went on with a rant when that was definitley just a yes or no question.

And how I dealt with that was to tell him that the dog making him angry isn't a good enough reason to not do what you were told. So go down and put the clothes in the dryer now. lol
 
I think it's adorable. I like it for alot of reaosn but the main one is because they feel open enough to tell me why they did or they didn't. I feel like it won't always be that way. So I love it while I can =)
 
never ever close your child off to communication. if you stop caring about what they have to say, there will come a day when an angry teenager will lash out and not tell you whats going on, and who knows what that could be, drugs, gangs, sex, whatever. just listen and nod and pretend to be interested in your child and get over it. obviously you don't care about whether or not your child has positive experiences, let's just hope your children become warm and caring individuals, because they're apparently not getting that at home.
 
you... LISTEN!!!! take the time to listen to your kid.. not many parents are lucky enough your kid shares things with you. dont miss out on things later on you might regret. :)
 
I love to hear about my kids' day. They always go on and on and I love to listen. But I do have a 10 year old that talks nonstop whether I ask her a question or not. She even talks to herself.....in the bathroom, playing in her room, in her sleep, it doesn't matter. So I guess I'm just used to it.

I really think you should always listen to your kids and never close the door to communication. There will come a day when they are teenagers that they will stop communicating and you will wish they would talk. Be interested....it's important.
 
Ummm, sorry to say but that question is not necessarily a yes or a no question
How about you be a good parent and listing to what they have to say.
 
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