what do u all think do "normal" mothers Judge young mothers?

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i get looks im a mom of 3 but im mad young 23 so i dress different i like to rock diffrent hair colors i express myself alot throu styl and my style tends to e louder then most moms and have a different style and am in my own World playing and rolling around with my kids when all the other mothers r be proper lol anyways i know i get judged and looks but im thing of getting a lip ring i really don't know what it has 2 do with my parenting but people;e tell me u cant do that your a mother that's not ok but im like u just think that cause your old and don't care anymore. i don't want 2 be fake my kid love me for me and cause the r safe and loved and cared for what the hell should it matter what i dress like or what i perice i cant be someone im not or stop expressing myself then i would not be teaching them to be who they r but what makes others comfortable
 
If you want to get a piercing, do it. Forget about what other people think. I'm a twenty year old mother to an almost nine month old girl, I have 14 piercings. My MIL tries to convince me that it is not appropriate for a mother to have piercings. You know what? I don't care. I am who I am and I'm not changing for anyone. My daughter doesn't care if I have piercings, that's all that matters.

Be yourself. If other mothers feel the need to judge you for it, just feel sorry for them that they need to put others down to make themselves feel better, because that is all it is.
 
Just because other stuck up snobby b*tches don't agree with how you want to look, that doesn't mean your obligated to give a crap. Some people are just conservative and it's ignorant to care so much about other people's opinions that it affects the way you dress/think/act. Sometimes people just need to lay off and mind their own business. If you want to put FIVE rings in your lip who the hell am I to stop you, or tell you it's stupid? Having facial peircings doesn't make you a bad parent and anyone who tells you otherwise is just being an immature judmental idiot.
 
Parenting is just that.. being there for your children and raising them right. Children dont care about looks.. they care about love. Love them right and teach them right and nothing else matters
 
As long as you are being the best mother you can be and providing for your kids first then there is nothing wrong with dressing your way and having a piercing. It has nothing to do with the type of mother you are. I am pregnant with my first and I'm 24...have a well paying career (close to $100,000 a year) and have been married almost 5 years. I get looks because I'm young and I have tattoos...like that means I cant be the best mom out there. Everyone judges others because deep down it makes them feel better about themselves. So just think that when someone is judging you you are actually helping boost their ego...so at least you helped someone today!
 
I was a Mom at 21 and no one said a dang thing to me about it. LOL. I pretty much was waiting for it,but it never happened. You have to be yourself. Your kids will call you out on it if you are fake. There are all types of parents in this world and you will see that when your little ones start school
 
I know where you're coming from.. I only have 2 kids but I am 23 too and I have a few tats and piercings. I have the feeling that sometimes people look at me and think I am a bad parent because of the way I choose to look ( my tats and piercings). But when I think about it, I really don't care what others think because I know I am a great mother and that's all that really matters. I think its great that you can get down and roll around with your kids.. it tells people that you can actually play WITH your kids. I do it too.. my kids are 3 and 16 months and when my 3 yr old wants to play with Play Doh, I play with it too or I jump on the bed with them.

So even if you do get 'looks' from older mothers, or other people in general because of your age or the way you express yourself, think about it.. think about how you are as a mother.. and know that you are great at being one, and that your kids love you for who YOU ARE. =)
 
I honestly think there isn't a "normal" mother. Just because I see a mother doing something that's not by the "mother bible", or doing something I wouldn't, I'm not going to judge. You do what works for you, they're your children. Your teaching them that being different is ok, and that's great. When I see a mom with a tattoo or piercings I don't even give it a second thought. Does that mean she loves her child less, absolutely not. Just because we become mothers doesn't mean we have to loose our personality and become someone we don't want to be. So as long as a child isn't being abused, be the best mother that you can be. It doesn't matter what others think.
 
im going to be 16 when my baby is born. ive 7 ear piercings 3 in each ear and an industrial bar. i have my bellybutton pierced, i have snake bites, and my toung pierced. people judge me because im young and cus of the way i look i dont care i will be an awesome mom and i know it. my brothers girlfriend has a 2 year old son and their twins are due in february she is 19 and he is 17 they both get judged so much. i dont like it. you should never change yourself for others you sound like an awesome mom
 
i just want to say im 24 and i have 3 lil. one to and pregnant. i don't care what other ppl say. i love my babies not like im doing any thing wrong with them, there happy n love me.... so i hope u stay strong and dont let them get to u that much
 
Don't worry about them. As long as you're teaching your kids, loving them, playing with them and actually being a mother it's no ones business. Just be yourself and be comfortable with who you are. Looks doesn't make you a good or bad mom. Women are just bitches.
 
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