...business??!!! Please help me!? Okay, I know what you are all going to say... "break up with him!" But I really want an alternate route of action.... So, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 1 year. When we first got together he had 2 part time jobs that he had been at for about a year prior. He also had a slight drug abuse problem that I wasn't fully aware of. I was also addicted to drugs in the past (over 5 years ago) so I understand the issues and work that goes along with getting clean, so we started working on it.
One job did lay offs about 4 months into our relationship and he was one of the few to get the boot(he had already started getting off drugs and was doing everything to the best of his power so I let it go)
So now we are down to 1 part time job... that he ended up loosing as well about 2 1/2 months ago.
The problem: We live together and I pay ALL the bills!
AND, Did I mention I have two 4 year old children??
I love my boyfriend sooo much, and my kids love him even more...They adore him. He is great with them and they would rather play with him over me most of the time. He helps me get through all the stressful mommy moments and is helping me teach my kids disipline(they were outa control before him)
Today he is clean, but unemployed, and living off me. The only hope I have left of getting any financial help out of him is the unemployment check that is due to arrive shortly (it took him 2 months to even apply!)
On top of all this, he has drug classes is is supposed to be completing. He wont fuc*n** go! I know I am constantly asking him to do things (like help me get the kids ready for school, we just moved, etc) because I am beyond stressed out, but he should still be able to find time to do it. he is already on strike 2 and the judge told him he needs to be attending meetings before his next court date(last one was 2 weeks ago). He still hasn't attended one!
When he first got laid off he put in a few apps but never followed up. Now he takes 2-3 naps a day while I'm at work and my house is a mess (its both of our mess but im at work all day and he's home sleeping).
we are BROKE, and im stressing on how im gonna feed my family at this point. Im turning into a bitch too. constantly nagging and I hate it. Im even counting beers. Im sad to admit but today I counted corndogs that I bought 2 days ago and he has already eaten 10! along with other stuff.....
I dont want to break up with him, or I wouldn't have posted this.
What I'm looking for are any ideas on how to help him motivate and become a productive MAN.
He was on meth for 7 years, we used to use together.I know he's a good person, but he hasn't lived in the real world for a long time. How do you rehabilitate someone into reality? Make them pride themselves and want to succeed. He's not the smartest cookie and is having trouble getting emloyed because of his criminal background. I am trying to be patient but I want to help guide him.
Any Ideas?? Please Help me!!!
One job did lay offs about 4 months into our relationship and he was one of the few to get the boot(he had already started getting off drugs and was doing everything to the best of his power so I let it go)
So now we are down to 1 part time job... that he ended up loosing as well about 2 1/2 months ago.
The problem: We live together and I pay ALL the bills!
AND, Did I mention I have two 4 year old children??
I love my boyfriend sooo much, and my kids love him even more...They adore him. He is great with them and they would rather play with him over me most of the time. He helps me get through all the stressful mommy moments and is helping me teach my kids disipline(they were outa control before him)
Today he is clean, but unemployed, and living off me. The only hope I have left of getting any financial help out of him is the unemployment check that is due to arrive shortly (it took him 2 months to even apply!)
On top of all this, he has drug classes is is supposed to be completing. He wont fuc*n** go! I know I am constantly asking him to do things (like help me get the kids ready for school, we just moved, etc) because I am beyond stressed out, but he should still be able to find time to do it. he is already on strike 2 and the judge told him he needs to be attending meetings before his next court date(last one was 2 weeks ago). He still hasn't attended one!
When he first got laid off he put in a few apps but never followed up. Now he takes 2-3 naps a day while I'm at work and my house is a mess (its both of our mess but im at work all day and he's home sleeping).
we are BROKE, and im stressing on how im gonna feed my family at this point. Im turning into a bitch too. constantly nagging and I hate it. Im even counting beers. Im sad to admit but today I counted corndogs that I bought 2 days ago and he has already eaten 10! along with other stuff.....
I dont want to break up with him, or I wouldn't have posted this.
What I'm looking for are any ideas on how to help him motivate and become a productive MAN.
He was on meth for 7 years, we used to use together.I know he's a good person, but he hasn't lived in the real world for a long time. How do you rehabilitate someone into reality? Make them pride themselves and want to succeed. He's not the smartest cookie and is having trouble getting emloyed because of his criminal background. I am trying to be patient but I want to help guide him.
Any Ideas?? Please Help me!!!