What culture is hardest on their children?

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Jonathan

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I wonder which culture is hardest on their children when it comes to discipline. I hear a lot about how Asian parents are very traditional and strict on their children and demanding, but I personally think African-American parents (especially the moms) are just as hard. I'm African-American and well the women in my family don't play around. They are very insistent at times when things don't go their way. My mom can be very demanding and insisting on her way of doing things commanding respect which to me means obedience regardless of whether I agree or not or feel hurt or not all that matters is how she sees things. So yeah sometimes I wonder about which culture is the hardest and most demanding on their kids but I guess it is an irrelevant question because on the individual level each parent is different and I think universally all parents are gonna be firm with their kids at some point yearning to protect them from harm. I think parents will always see their children as babies (about to step into danger) no matter their age. I saw Joy Luck Club but I also saw Crooklyn and well the moms in both films were very firm with their kids (Lindo dragged Waverly to the piano in JLC while Alfree Woodard's character in the film Crooklyn, Mrs. Carmichael, whipped her kids one morning after they forgot to clean up the house the night before). So in those two films we saw two moms of two different cultures taking the reigns with their kids. Even Waverly screamed out "I'll never be the perfect daughter that you want me to be!" Sometimes I feel just like that, like nothing will ever be to satisfaction because my flaws and irritatable habits will always be emphasized. Whenever I get reprimanded emotionally for not doing something I should have done or doing something I shouldn't it makes me feel very guilty about even being alive because I feel that for every breath I take I will get another downgrade by everyone around me because I somehow infringed on their personal comfort and satisfaction so now they have something to blame me for. Being a human is tough, but I'm still kicking at 23.
 
A strict displine enviorment produces succesfull rich and smart kids like the Asians and INdians have

But the culture in America i noticed is very harsh on kids, so many bullies at school, to many negative influences, drugs, sex and cooks
 
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