? Marilyn ? ?
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I don't know why this happens.. When I am out shopping with my partner, there are problems.. I don't know if he's just lazy or thoughtless or something but, many times he will actually throw sentences out at me in a form that does not make sense.. Like he talks fast and he is in just a rush to talk fast and get the sentence out, to the point that he doesn't even care what he says or what comes out.. Let's say he wanted to say: "This book is full priced or is it on sale?"
He would say "This book is is priced is on sale no?" Like HUH?! And then he will not even try to explain or correct himself either.. He will leave the sentence exactly like that. I will ask him- "WHAT?!? What does that mean?" and he will say- "Ah- (then mumbles a whole bunch of words)" and I'll say "What the hell are you talking about?!! What are you trying to say?!" and he'll flip and say "Don't bother me!"
That is maybe a mild example too. It really gets me agrivated.. There are also many times he'd put me in a situation that has me believe one thing, when he really meant to communicate something else entirely different.. It is very stressful and I never had this problem before.. I don't know anyone that ever did this or dealt with this before either..
What is going on with him?
I tried to google.. maybe it is "cluttering?"
this sounds familiar... adhd description, from here: http://www.bachfloweradvice.com/faqeng-what-are-the-main-communication-problems-with-adhd.htm..
"• Not talking: ADHDers are sometimes so caught up in their own world of thoughts, feelings and worries that they forget to answer when someone is posing them a question.
• Impulsivity: impulsivity in a conversation may be good thing, because then the other person knows who he is dealing with. Nonetheless, it is not always diplomatic to bluntly express your opinion all the time. ADHDers should try being patient, breathe calmly and speak their mind at the appropriate time.
• Finishing sentences: To show their partner they are listening attentively, ADHDers tend to finish the sentences of their conversation partner themselves. That is meant for the best but may in the long term get on other people’s nerves and lead to frustration and anger.
• Changing the subject: This is a frequent and difficult problem with ADHDers. They start speakin
He would say "This book is is priced is on sale no?" Like HUH?! And then he will not even try to explain or correct himself either.. He will leave the sentence exactly like that. I will ask him- "WHAT?!? What does that mean?" and he will say- "Ah- (then mumbles a whole bunch of words)" and I'll say "What the hell are you talking about?!! What are you trying to say?!" and he'll flip and say "Don't bother me!"
That is maybe a mild example too. It really gets me agrivated.. There are also many times he'd put me in a situation that has me believe one thing, when he really meant to communicate something else entirely different.. It is very stressful and I never had this problem before.. I don't know anyone that ever did this or dealt with this before either..
What is going on with him?
I tried to google.. maybe it is "cluttering?"
this sounds familiar... adhd description, from here: http://www.bachfloweradvice.com/faqeng-what-are-the-main-communication-problems-with-adhd.htm..
"• Not talking: ADHDers are sometimes so caught up in their own world of thoughts, feelings and worries that they forget to answer when someone is posing them a question.
• Impulsivity: impulsivity in a conversation may be good thing, because then the other person knows who he is dealing with. Nonetheless, it is not always diplomatic to bluntly express your opinion all the time. ADHDers should try being patient, breathe calmly and speak their mind at the appropriate time.
• Finishing sentences: To show their partner they are listening attentively, ADHDers tend to finish the sentences of their conversation partner themselves. That is meant for the best but may in the long term get on other people’s nerves and lead to frustration and anger.
• Changing the subject: This is a frequent and difficult problem with ADHDers. They start speakin